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  Family pic taken Friday

  by JeffT in

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  monika (future daughter in law, also just graduated from uw) wife debbie, son alex, and some old dude who claims to be me.

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  BizzyBee

  Jeff - You are indeed blessed. Beautiful family.
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  Oh, the pain

  by Cirkeline in

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  it hurts like hell to listen to my 17 yo girl, crying, saying she misses our real relationship.

  that she gets depressed every time we talk about spiritual things.

  and i really do the utmost to leave it out of our conversations.

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  BizzyBee

  To be a parent is to take on the mantle of everlasting guilt. Children have no such reciprocal burden. They have the luxury of flailing around, ranting at you, weeping and moaning about the suckitude of life. And you have to take it.

  Children crave the security of knowing that someone is in charge - that's why we invented God. You do her no favor if you are uncertain or wishy-washy. Let her know that you are on solid ground about your convictions. That is the best gift you can give her.

  And unconditional love.
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  How did you long-timers do it before the internet / Ray Franz books / abundant information?

  by irondork in

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  with all the tools and information at the disposal of newly awakened ones, it's still no easy task coming to terms with the magnitude of it all.

  it still takes a lot of gut-wrenching time and effort to get to the point where you are sure you made the right decision to leave.. .

  how did you long-timers (old-timers, respectfully) manage it without crisis of conscience, christian freedom, jwn, jwfacts, freeminds, access to thousands of fellow survivors with stories just like yours?.

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  BizzyBee

  thanks for blazing the trail!

  You're welcome.

  I left before we even had computers, let alone the interwebs. I'd had doubts for quite some time and it was initially an emotional withdrawal - in my heart it just didn't make sense. I faded, so my large JW family didn't quite know I'd left until I "married out of the truth." When we bought our first home my brother formally disowned me ("anything we ever were to each other no longer exists") but my mother never did. The longer I was out, the more sure I was that this was not "the truth," even though I had moments of uncomfortable cognitive dissonance. But, the world was so much bigger and more interesting than these small-minded ciphers at the KH were allowed to see, so I hung on.

  After nearly ten years of being the only person I knew who was an apostate, I got my hands on and read Visions of Glory: A History and a Memory of Jehovah's Witnesses by Barbara Grizzuti Harrison. I inhaled that book like oxygen. Finally I had an intellectual underpinning for my emotional disconnect.

  I haven't felt a shred of cognitive dissonance about the WTS in 30+ years.
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  New Video aka Sparlock- View of Active JW

  by XBEHERE in

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  so over the weekend i was in a cargroup for service, yes i still go out but i dont ring doorbells or knock i just go out to keep wife and other elders off my back, anyway the video came up and i said nothing about it but the other 3 people in the car ( a pioneer and 1 elder, 1 publisher) said that it was good.

  yes you heard correctly good!

  the pioneer even stated that the annimation was good and it is short enough to hold a young childs attention.

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  I think a lot of jws will say it's good even if they think it's a bunch of bs.

  Just like a lot of JWs engage in field circus even though they are secretly waiting to make their escape.

  It's all about planting seeds. Some sprout overnight, some take longer and some are frozen beneath the ice, waiting for the warmth of spring. But the main thing is to plant the seeds.
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  Do You Read The Drudge Report?

  by minimus in

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  it's my homepage.. love the site!.

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  BizzyBee

  Thanks, Diest.

  That report has been all over the web for months, but I should have known linking it from huffpo would be a distraction to those in denial.
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  Did You Watch The Waltons?

  by snowbird in

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  if so, did you enjoy the show?.

  i loved it.

  missed quite a few episodes due to attending kh meetings, but i'm making up for that.. the show reminds me so of growing up in a large family, having to share everything, and looking out for each other..

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  BizzyBee

  I Married Joan

  One of my favorites, too. Jim Backus.
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  Did You Watch The Waltons?

  by snowbird in

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  if so, did you enjoy the show?.

  i loved it.

  missed quite a few episodes due to attending kh meetings, but i'm making up for that.. the show reminds me so of growing up in a large family, having to share everything, and looking out for each other..

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  BizzyBee

  Goodnight John-Boy!
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  Do You Read The Drudge Report?

  by minimus in

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  it's my homepage.. love the site!.

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  BizzyBee

  Daily Show is far more interesting.

  And informative:

  Another study has concluded that people who only watch Fox News are less informed than all other news consumers.

  People who only listened to NPR or watched Sunday morning talk shows or "The Daily Show" did the best in the study.

  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/23/fox-news-less-informed-new-study_n_1538914.html

  The Drudge Report is the political equivalent of a tabloid rag. Same readership, too.
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  Is The "American Dream" is over?

  by cantleave in

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  http://www.businessinsider.com/the-american-dream-is-now-a-myth-2012-6.

  one of the most distressing aspects of the state of the us economy is the decrease in social mobility.. it is much, much harder now than it used to be for americans to improve their circumstances.. in other words, if americans are born poor, they're overwhelmingly likely to stay poor.. similarly, if americans are born rich, they have a much better chance of staying rich than someone born poor or middle class.. no one minds inequality as long as one's station in life is a function of one's own decisions and effort.. when inequality becomes the luck of the draw, however, if becomes much more profoundly unfair.. america's social mobility is now not only one of the lowest in the country's history--it's one of the lowest in the first world.. if that doesn't change, the fundamental promise of america for the past 250 years will disappear.

  the country will no longer be a place in which you can control your economic destiny.

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  better education, health care and nutrition

  I agree. And would add that another advantage of being well-born is the opportunity for travel, exposure to new experiences and a wider variety of people. Well-off parents tend to associate with others of similiar socio-economic status and their children thus become comfortable in the company of the educated, the professionals and the movers and shakers of the world.
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  Soon enough, now...

  by AGuest in

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  dear hubby, puppies, and i will be feasting on braised, slow-cooked lamb shank (in red wine-sauced brown gravy with garlik and unjins!)...

  braised cabbage (yes, of course, with bacon, you betcha!

  ) and perhaps some candied carrots on the side (maybe; 'pends on how i'm feelin.).

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  BizzyBee

  I'm with you Shelby! A lamb fan here........but Mr Bee doesn't like lamb so I usually only get it in restaurants or mebbe like the last time I was a my sister's - she made some scrumptious lamb chops.

  My #1 food rule: There is no such thing as 'too much garlic.'