hi, i am a friend of dedpoet, i think he may have posted about me occasionally, and he has kindly allowed me to join the forum from his pc as i do not have internet access at home.
i have known trev (dedpoet) since he first joined the same congregation as me 14 years ago, and we have always been friends.
i was very sad when he left us some years ago, but have maintained contact with him, something that has got me in trouble with the elders just lately now he is disassociated.
all my love, Linda
I don't know why that touched me like it did. I just wanted to give you a big hug.
Welcome to the board. I am fairly new myself but have seen more compassion, love and understanding here in a few weeks than I saw in over 20 years as a JW.
Shannon
i was thinking about the kingdom songs we sang as jw's and was wondering about you posters out there that are ex-jw's or still jw's what was you all time favorite "kingdom song" or what was you all time horrible song that we sang from both songbooks (1966 songbook or the later songbook made in 1984 sing praises to jehovah.
my favorite song was song #119 in the 1966 songbook "keep your eyes on the prize".
i like this song because it made me feel that armaggeddon was coming fast and the "new system" would be here to give me the prize.
Funny, Darth....from your Avatar, it surprises me that you're not a good singer.
have any of you ever thought that you would be with somone forever in a paradise earth?
then you realize that it was all a bunch of lies.
you slowly watch the marriage you had dissentgrate before your eyes.. you want desperately to fix it, but you are being pulled in too many directions.
Have any of you ever thought that you would be with somone forever in a paradise earth? Then you realize that it was all a bunch of lies. You slowly watch the marriage you had dissentgrate before your eyes.
Yes.
You see 10 years of time, effort, and commitment die a slow death. You try to hold on but you just aren't the same person anymore, but she still is.
Yes. 30 years and he still is.
Part of you wishes you could turn back the clock and fix it, but the other part longs to be free and live life for yourself for once.
Hardly a day goes by without thoughts like this.
You just want somone there to tell you it will all be alright, but you stare blankly at the computer screen in front of you. Being alone is scarier then I thought. But at the same time it is exciting. I am so confused.It will be all right and you don't have to be alone. Your situation is not unique and you have found a good place to refresh your soul and find encouragement. Time really does help to heal. Welcome.
my sisters came home yesterday and said someone was following them home from school, they got very scared and ran the rest of the way home.
they also told me that these two men had also followed one of their friends home a few days ago.
should i call the school and report it or should i call the police station?
Hell no, you're not over reacting! Call the cops and get the neighborhood watch involved. Find out who those punks are!
My sentiments exactly! Believe me, you don't want to be in the position of looking back and wishing you'd done something.
i was thinking about the kingdom songs we sang as jw's and was wondering about you posters out there that are ex-jw's or still jw's what was you all time favorite "kingdom song" or what was you all time horrible song that we sang from both songbooks (1966 songbook or the later songbook made in 1984 sing praises to jehovah.
my favorite song was song #119 in the 1966 songbook "keep your eyes on the prize".
i like this song because it made me feel that armaggeddon was coming fast and the "new system" would be here to give me the prize.
I can't help but think about the song, "We're Jehovah's Witnesses". I can still hear my kids belting out the one song they could sing. Some of them even sang their ABC's to the same tune!
Personally, the songs/singing at the KH always sounded pathetic to me. And why is it the ones that sing off key, sing the loudest? I think that was the thing I missed the most about 'Christendom'.....some good, heartfelt singing and the old hymms I grew up singing. That should have been my first clue that something was amiss when they have to have their own set of songs for praise!
how did you get over these phobias?.
was there a christian or bibilical based explanation that helped you to get over these phobias?.
cyp
My husband was real big on the demon theory since he was raised by spiritistic parents. The whole JW/demon BS fit right in. We wouldn't accept anything from his parents or have pics of them because they could be possessed. He would get weird feelings about objects from yard sales and we would get rid of them. And of course, anything of any religious nature that wasn't JW oriented was infested with demons. Several months back he was having trouble sleeping at night and thought it was demons and asked me if I had any anti-JW books in our bedroom closet. I told him I thought there might be some in a bookbag somewhere. He asked me to get them out and said I didn't have to throw them away, but he wanted to take them outside the house to store them. WTF! I told him I had read them all and they had served their purpose so he could dispose of them.
I've recently sent of for religious material to be sent to my home so I could start doing some research. I'm sure this will bring up demon-possessed accusations. I think it is only fair that I can have the same concerns about WTS literature and ask him to not have them around too. Ya think?
i thought i would share an experience from the congregation i was assosiated with in utah.
about 17 years ago i caught my 15-year-old stepson molesting my 3-year-old daughter.
of course, the first action taken was to call the elders.
Amen to that Lady Lee. That has been the entire grounds for my struggle....how do you forgive someone who blatantly justifies a terrible wrongdoing? I would feel much differently if he was cut to the heart by what he did and acknowledged his mistake. If it makes me un-Christian in some people's eyes because I can't/won't forgive....so be it. There are two sides to this equation.
I truly appreciate your viewpoint in the matter. It makes me feel much better.
i thought i would share an experience from the congregation i was assosiated with in utah.
about 17 years ago i caught my 15-year-old stepson molesting my 3-year-old daughter.
of course, the first action taken was to call the elders.
Interesting comments, Sheepish. I'll have to think over what you said because it immediately put up a huge wall to even consider forgiveness. Not that you are wrong....I just have to digest it a while. And even though he was a teen when he did the molesting, at 31 he still feels justified....different story for me.
I really appreciate your kind thoughts and imput though.
my name is todd and i am new to this forum.
i just wanted to say hello and introduce myself.
i am from salt lake city, utah and i have been free from the wtbts since 1998. i wanted to also see if there are any ex-jw's in utah that might want to chat.
Welcome Todd!
I was in Utah from 1985-1994 or so. Was in Spanish Fork congregation most of it but was in American Fork and Provo for a short time. Move to CA and faded away in 98.
You've found a great place to find friends and people who understand.
i am curious, how many of you were lurkers on jwd before joining in the party?
im not sure if there is anyway to know how many people at any given time are just reading the posts and not posting, versus active members.
i am going to do a pseudo-scientific analysis based on responses to the following questions:.
I was very active in an AOL chatroom for DF'd persons when I first stopped going to meetings about 7 years ago. (I'm not DA or DF)I even hosted one for a while. Did a lot of research to reaffirm my decision. That lasted about a year. I didn't leave for doctrinal reasons, mainly the people and witch hunts. The doctrinal lies just added icing to the cake.
I am married to an active JW so need fortification sometimes.....found this a couple of weeks ago and just jumped in. If JWs had been anything like the people here, I may not have thought to leave or question.
