Dear Sharon and Family, I was raised a jw from 4 years of age and was a very active witness, i was married to an elder and we had a great circle of friends, i was offended very deeply by 2 elders in our congregation that forced me to slip away from the meetings, my husband chose to stick to the elders instead of his wife so i eventually left and was subsequently disfellowshipped,that was huge culture shock for me, being torn away from all of my friends and family, the congregation also too tried to get my kids to stop seeing me, it was a really tough time for me but i got through it, i cant begin to imagine the pain you are going through or the anger and there is nothing anyone can do to take that away from you, but just know that my thoughts along with all others here are with you, and wish you all the strength you will need to pull through this,and thank you dave for letting all of us give our best regards to sharon and her family.
chezza
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Post a message to Sharon Roe(Janet Bryant's sister
by seven006 insharon like her sister janet was also raised a jw.
she left the religion three years ago just about the same time as robert and janet.
her husband is not a jw but did attend the occasional meeting.
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Being a single Ex JDub
by Cammi inis it just me, or is it very difficult to be a single ex?
there are questions boyfriends ask about my family, why i dont have contact with them, and what did i do to gain their utter disfavor?
why do i put up with what men tell me to believe?
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chezza
Hi Cammi, your not alone there, i am lucky enough to have a wonderful man in my life who loves me to bits, but,he still has issues with what i believed in, but my brother has been single for a long time, he is really good looking but cant seem to get a real girlfriend who will stick by him, i think his problem is he tells everyone what he was and they think wierdo here, my advice to you is not to tell them what you were but rather let them see what you have become
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What did you refuse to do in school?
by Moxy inin high school, one friend of mine was offended by flowers for algernon because of the sex bits and refused to take it as part of the english curriculum.
he even gave an experience about it at a ca.
so those of us in the other english classes that year kinda had to refuse to do it too.
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chezza
what i hated the most was having to stand in front of the school office everytime they did the saluting of the flag and everyone made sure to make fun of me, no school camps, no after school friends, no life basically, oh yeah my mum took me out of health eduction coz they were discussing sex, that was sooooooooooo embarrassing
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I'm heading off to go to the Bryant memorial
by seven006 ini really hate funerals and memorials and avoid them as much as i can.
looking back on the few i have attended over the past ten years i guess i only go to them because of the people who are left behind.
since i didn't know the bryant's or any of their family members i find the draw that i have to this service even more confusing.
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chezza
Good on you seven, wish i could go too.
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Children and inculcation
by larc inthe jws teach that you must bring the children to meetings.
they must be inculcated, and hear, read, and respond to what is good and bad.
that is how i was raised in the religion.
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chezza
Great point raised here, my kids are terrors and i mean that in the nicest possible way, they have grown up in the "truth" and i think that there are many many more worldy kids that behave better than them, and i think its because they have had rules rules and more rules, it makes them go wild.
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Whats the cruelest thing a JW has eva done to you
by VioletAnai ini think the most thoughtless thing they eva did to me...and it's rather embarrassing...is when i was still a jw at 14.. i'd just had an operation to remove a cyst and my left ovary due to polycystic ovarian syndrome.
so i'm sitting at the district convention and i get up to go and have lunch with my mum cause i was sitting with an sister a little older than me - in her 20's.
so i start walking across the oval and there's people everywhere and i'm getting a few looks, but hey, i was a paranoid teen, they made me agoraphobic, so i didn't think too much of it.
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chezza
You poor thing larc and i can sympathize with you i had a similar experience when my daughter was close to death because of being born prematurely, not one single witness from the hall came to see me in hospital when we were struggling with the blood issue.
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Meet my Lil Man:)
by mommy inhey all.
i just got home from the hospital earlier this evening, but i wanted to post a few pics of my lil man for you.
i can't believe he is finally here!
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chezza
Congrats wendy, what an absolute angel he is, cluck cluck cluck, dang i wish i never got my tubes tied
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How old were you when you lost your virginity...
by butalbee inhow old were you when you lost your virginity and was it all that you thought it would be?????.
i was 19, and my first time was a complete let down.
i envisioned that gothic romance motif, all about romance and love, i didn't know what i was doing, didn't know sex was like that.
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chezza
i was 17 it was the day after my wedding.
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Murder by dog.....murder by shunning
by alamb inhmmmmm............ although a lot of factors weigh in on a person's reaction to shunning, who is guilty in the end?.
i was wondering what the bryant's jw family are thinking, but reverting to my old jw rationale, "that's what happens when you leave the organization.
" i am horrified at what i could rationalize for the society.. maybe dave and the rest who attended the services can help someone in the family who was reconsidering jw policies.
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Hi alamb,
Very interesting point here, although it was hard to shun certain ones like your imediate family and friends, you had it drummed into you that they were in the wrong and that they needed to come back to jehovah. I'm sure that there are plenty of witnesses out there who still talk to ones that the congregation decided should be shunned. At this point in time my mother and one of my sisters still shun me and to be truthful with my feelings i would have to say that even if the societys viewpoint was to change and they could feel guilt free about talking to me and tried to i would not want to talk to them, when i needed them the most when i was going through the pain that led to me being disfellowshipped they didnt care, so now i have become hard hearted to them. -
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Thank you simon
by chezza inhi simon, firstly i would like to say thank you for allowing us to post on here, its been a real eye opener for me to see that there are other people out in the world like me, that we are not the freaks after all, when i first got disfellowshipped i thought it was a terrible thing, that i was leaving the truth, now, after spending around a month on here i can see i never was in the truth, so thank you for letting me see that.. also can i say its refreshing to see someone admit when they make a mistake, like you did in the thread by sf, thank you for not being too proud to listen.
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chezza
Hi simon, firstly i would like to say thank you for allowing us to post on here, its been a real eye opener for me to see that there are other people out in the world like me, that we are not the freaks after all, when i first got disfellowshipped i thought it was a terrible thing, that i was leaving the truth, now, after spending around a month on here i can see i never was in the truth, so thank you for letting me see that.
Also can i say its refreshing to see someone admit when they make a mistake, like you did in the thread by sf, thank you for not being too proud to listen.