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'Phone call from Ex JW,
by Phizzy ina guy i was great friend with in my teens 'phoned me out of the blue today, and brought back a lot of fond memories, he was df'd, because he was a very naughty boy lol, but as he said, as is common with a lot of us exes, he took a long time to grow up.
he spoke of my parents, who despite being jw's, were lovely people, they took him in to our home when his mum was in hospital for some weeks, he also spoke of the good times we had as kids, and how his parents were good to him, and made him what he is today despite being jw's.. we sometimes do not give credit where it is due, my parents made me a lover of truth, but it is real truth i espouse now of course.. perhaps this kind of view of our upbringing is more positive than concentrating on all the downsides of what is basically an evil cult ?
looking at the (very few) positives can perhaps help us heal ?.
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Mental Illness among JW's
by Victor indisclaimer: this article has some broad generalizations that will have exceptions to what is stated.
this is the only way i can even attempt to address the topic.
i've looked for scholarly articles published on peer reviewed journals for years.
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Exiting After Effects Part 2
by Victor inapproval .
as children we have a need to bond with our caregivers or parents.
this bond leads to needing their approval.
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Exiting the JW's and its aftermath Part 2
by Victor inapproval .
as children we have a need to bond with our caregivers or parents.
this bond leads to needing their approval.
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Exiting the JW's and its aftermath Part 2
by Victor inapproval .
as children we have a need to bond with our caregivers or parents.
this bond leads to needing their approval.
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EX JW's 12 Steps- Step 3
by Victor inwe decided to turn our will and our life over to the care of god or our higher power.
while some turn to religiosity, in my experience most turn to common sense or self determination.
the construct of a higher power presupposes that there is a force outside of ourselves that has always watched over us and will guide us the mere asking.
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Exiting the JW's and its aftermath
by Victor inas human beings we are capable of experiencing around 750 emotions.
parents use fear, guilt and shame to control their children to behave and do as they wish.
the jw's are masters at using the same 3 emotions to keep their members in check.
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What happens to bethel members who get sick?
by JimmyYoung inso i am sure if you are at bethel and have the flu you just get time or what ever to recover, but what about serious sickness.
say you get cancer or some possible terminal illness?
what happens?.
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King David's Three Choices
by Jehalapeno ineditor's note: found this on reddit...thought the meat of the post would be a good post for discussion here as well.. consider the three choices god forced upon david for taking a census.
these three choices were forced on king david, not for murdering people, not for raping women, not for lying, stealing, or any crime we can think of in our modern world that is repugnant, but simply for taking a census or in other words, counting people.. for counting people, jehovah forced a decision on david that involved the lives of thousands upon thousands of innocent people.. the choices all dealt with the “way” jehovah would kill thousands of unsuspecting loyal worshipers.. 1 chronicles 21.
“these are the choices the lord has given you.
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EX JW 12 Steps: Step 2
by Victor instep 2 .
we believed that something outside jw's could restore us to our sanity.. the path after leaving is no man's land filled with high's and lows.
some go the path of religiosity, some atheism, others a hedonistic path or some version of the three.