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  Help please....advice needed

  by peacefulpete in

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  please click link as i posted this in two places deliberately.

  we need solid advice from former elders moderators please don't erase one.

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  Peaceful:

  I'm so sorry for what you and your wife are going through. I don't have advice for this particular situation, but I wanted to mention a helpful book.

  I am currently reading Dr. Wayne Dyer's "Pulling Your Own Strings". It is for people who have or are being victimized. Your in-laws, as well as you and your wife, clearly are victims. You mentioned in the other post that your mother-in-law is taking anti-depressants as a result of this situation. YOU did not do this to your mother-in-law; it is her choice to believe these controlling men who are pointing a finger at you and your wife. I'm sorry that it seems to be "your fault"; people are upset and putting the blame on you. The big picture of this situation tells a different story: you are simply standing up for what you believe in. The other parties are reacting in the way they were taught. Everyone in this situation has a choice on how to behave or react....or judge for that matter. YOU have a right to stand up for what you believe (or not believe) in. Anyone who disagrees by pointing a finger is simply trying to get you to do what THEY want you to do.

  You have more guts than most people in the organization.
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  Do You Think We Are Helping Witnesses Get Out Thru This Forum?

  by minimus in

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  i am curious , especially since we have so many new ones here, as to how many actually left the organization because of this board or others similar to it.

  i certainly would hope that we are making a dent in the jw organization by what we do here......,

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  I "fell away" before finding this site. This site encourages me to understand why I wasn't comfortable living the life of a hypocrite. I was glad to find out I wasn't alone.

  As far as helping others "get out", it is hard to say. A JW who visits the site must have doubts about their religion to begin with.
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  Pet Peeves thread...

  by Brummie in

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  this kinda thread has probably been done before... someone phones me at work and when i say hello they say "hold on" and start talking to someone else, they dont tell me who they are and i'm hanging on hearing them chat to someone who is with them on the other end, 5 mins later they introduce themselves and tell me what they want.

  that is a pet peeve.. another, for example, go to the fridge and both tubs of butter are open and both blocks of cheese instead of finishing one off and then opening the other.

  thats just a small pet peeve but its one none the less.. miserable sod arnt i though?.

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  Sales clerks who are not courteous or say "your welcome" when you thank them. They sould be thanking me for my business!

  Sales clerks/receptionists/customer service reps who obviously hate their jobs and it shows in their attitude toward you, the customer. It is certainly enough to lose money for the business.

  Sales people who come to my house to sell magazines or other merchandise, and ask "why not?" when you tell them "no, thank you". I should not have to give a reason for not wasting my money on them.

  Students who don't turn their cell phones off during class time. This shows lack of respect for the instructor and other students. Very tacky during a lecture when you hear a phone ringing, then a "hello?" and "oh, Hi!". .

  People who don't look me in the eye when they are talking to me.

  Thanks for letting me vent....
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  Any British TV watchers out there?

  by wednesday in

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  i used to be a big fan of british tv here in the states.

  where, besides, pbs, can i see some of the great programs i used to watch?

  i'm in texas around dallas, so if anyone knows what channel they might be on, please respond.

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  I love Fawlty Towers; PBS shows it every now and then.
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  DeeeeeeMeeeennnnnzzzz !!??!?!?!?

  by ApagaLaLuz in

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  the recent superstition thread got me to thinking.

  growing up i was terrified of "demons".

  sometimes when we would have witness gatherings they would start in to "demon" stories.

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  My mom told me about an incident that happened when she was a teenager. Hearing about it gave me goosebumps. Her and her friends decided to try the Ouija board. They were just playing with the triangle piece according the the game's directions. They kept getting the same message over and over again: "leg hurts"....."leg hurts". They could not figure out what this message could possibly mean. They gave up, and decided to pack up and put the game away. One of the girls picked up the trianglular-shaped playing piece, and it fell into the box upside down. It was then they noticed one of the felt pieces was missing from the bottom of one of the 3 legs of the playing piece!
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  DeeeeeeMeeeennnnnzzzz !!??!?!?!?

  by ApagaLaLuz in

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  the recent superstition thread got me to thinking.

  growing up i was terrified of "demons".

  sometimes when we would have witness gatherings they would start in to "demon" stories.

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  I sister I knew had become I JW in her adult, married life. When she was a young girl, her grandfather taught her witchcraft. Apparently, after she married and had a baby, she would often find her child's crib being thrown back and forth against the walls of the baby's room. This happened for several nights until the baby died. It was after this incident the lady became a sister and had another child. She told of "incidents" happening, but managed to keep them under control by calling Jehovah's name out frequently.
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  Question for people who sew/craft

  by neverthere in

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  ok, it has been a long time since i sewed anything.

  do i wash my fabric first?

  i can't remember and the pattern instructions don't say.. diana

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  Ohiocowboy, I think it's GREAT that you sew. I have great respect for people who are not afraid of "non traditional" tasks or hobbies. I LOVE it when my husband helps me decorate the house. Often, we have gone to the fabric store together to pick out the right color combination for window treatments or accent pillows. He has great taste; something he wasn't aware of before he got married.

  Kudos to you, Ohio!
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  Are you black or white ? ( just asking)

  by vitty in

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  please dont take offence but ive just realised something maybe its been touched on before,.but when i was reading the thread on bil cosby i read the one off obviously secret.

  now as i am a white person i assumed he was white until he stated he was black.

  so when i thought about it, i imagine everyone on this site is white, does everyone who is black imagine everyone else is black, and anyone oriental imagine everyone else is oriental.

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  I'm so white it hurts....literally. I'm half Scandinavian. Exposing myself to the sun for 15 minutes is painful and results in nausea and lightheadedness. Never, ever a nice tan will happen, only uncomfortable burning.

  Okay, I do have some French, German, Polish, too.

  My dog is a black lab. He likes to relax in the sun spots on the porch. My husband and I tease the dog, saying he is "working on his tan" whenever the dog does this....
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  What if we... (for non-DF and DA "friends of this forum."

  by Confucious in

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  what if we all went back the kh and disobeyed every non-biblical rule.

  we went in and were "non-politically correct" witnesses.

  we'd say "bless you," we'd say "you're lucky.

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  I have this fantasy of walking up to a sister or brother in the grocery store and just start gabbing. They, of course, would rudely walk away from me (cuz I'm df'd), but I would just follow them around and gab and gab, just like old times.

  .......naw...I would just make a fool of myself, and they would feel proud that they snubbed me.
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  What Got You Out of the Borg?

  by L_A_Big_Dawg in

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  i have looked for this topic today, and didn't find it.

  so i was wondering if you fine folks could tell me and others what was it exactly that got you out?.

  sarcasm is welcome provided you tell us the real reason under it .

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  The hypocrisy and the control.....two of the biggest.

  Also, being a female in the organization made a difference in my attitude. I remember getting pissed off over many things that seemed double standard.

  Tell me again: why can't I use the track at the YMCA to burn off the energy I would rather use engaging in sex?