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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

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  2. relationships

  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  Who told you it "sounds" a little like a cult.

  IT IS ABSOLUTELY A CULT

  You have page after page of people telling you as much. What more do you need?

  Again I'll point out that you broke up with him and he "refused" so you are still with him. WTF?
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  Im Writing An Ex-JW Self Help Book

  by pale.emperor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  we all know waking up from the cult and trying to leave is a very scary and life changing experience.

  for many it's traumatic and few find the transition easy.

  we have to deal with families cutting us off entirely or keeping us at arms length at best, lies being told about us by the organization, ex members gossiping about us and finding ourselves in a world very different from what we're prepared for.. for this reason, i've decided to start writing a self-help book informing jws of what to expect when they leave the org.

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  Great idea! I vote for the third title because it's easily understandable. You could also do a combination of #4-#3.

  Wide Awake! - How to Cope After Leaving Jehovah's Witnesses
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  Is he interested?

  by Sunnybear in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

  on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

  it was not planned, it just happened.

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  I can't get past you trying to end it and him "refusing". Why are you still seeing him? You do realize you have a choice, right? It only takes one to end it.

  Honestly, he's got you on the down low and is trying to convert you as well. He's messed up. Step back outside yourself and read what you wrote. It sounds abusive and like you're just along for the abusive ride. If it starts like this, do you think it will get better?

  Tell him to get lost. He doesn't respect you, and you need to respect yourself. Nothing screams desperate like dating a guy because he refuses to take no for an answer and then looking into his cult. JWs are a powerful cult that utterly destroy families.

  R-U-N, not just from him but also to see a therapist to see what makes you attracted to a guy like this. You're willing to overlook huge red flags, and that may be something you need to address internally.
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  NY City Meet-Up on Saturday, March 31st; 6:00 - 9:00 PM

  by patlynnw in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my name is patricia warmack, a ny city ex-jw.

  javin michael and i are hosting an ex-jw meet-up on saturday, march 31st, 6:00 - 9:00 pm.

  address is 520 eighth avenue, room 16t, new york, ny.

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  dubstepped

  @Rubadub - If it's for exjws, why not on Memorial night? Seems like it would give them something encouraging to do while their former friends and family memorialize.
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  Who deserves the title of king of apostasy ?

  by Chook in

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  2. experiences

  i think this would be a noble endeavour..

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  dubstepped

  An apostate, per definition, is a person that renounces a religious belief. I can't speak for you, but I'm an apostate and most mentioned would fit that definition. Just because Watchtower adds qualifiers like being "mentally diseased" doesn't change the meaning of the word or make it somehow less fitting.
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  NY City Meet-Up on Saturday, March 31st; 6:00 - 9:00 PM

  by patlynnw in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my name is patricia warmack, a ny city ex-jw.

  javin michael and i are hosting an ex-jw meet-up on saturday, march 31st, 6:00 - 9:00 pm.

  address is 520 eighth avenue, room 16t, new york, ny.

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  dubstepped

  Hi Patricia, and welcome to the forum. I'm not sure how many we have here from NYC. You should post on Facebook groups like the Ex Jehovah's Witnesses recovery group 3 and the exjw Reddit group as well.

  My brother lives in Manhattan. He's an exjw. I'll let him know.

  Let me know how this goes. I'd be interested in knowing what kind of exjw community you have up there. I do a podcast called "shunned" and my sister-in-law wants me to do a live shunned podcast recording/meetup up there near the old Brooklyn Bethel. I'm interested, though terrified of coming out from behind the mic and being on stage (JW flashbacks), but if there's a good exjw community that is supportive I might do it.
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  Famous Last Words

  by Blueblades in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  sooner or later it happens to all of us.the time comes for us to draw our last breath and pass from this life into the next.over the years history has recorded some fascinating "famous last words"...here are a few.. "i've never felt better".douglas fairbanks,sr.,actor.. "iam about to----or i am going to-----die;either expression is correct".dominique bouhours,french grammarian.. "don't let it end like this.tell them i said something.

  "pancho villa,mexican revolutionary.. "all my possessions for a moment of time!

  "elizabeth 1,queen of england.. "everybody has got to die,but i have always believed an exception would be made in my case.now what?

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  dubstepped

  Actually, what JWGoneBad said just shows that belief in god is nothing more than selfish and born out of emotions like fear. It's the very essence of grasping for straws.
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  Who deserves the title of king of apostasy ?

  by Chook in

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  i think this would be a noble endeavour..

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  Ray Franz, the OG apostate.

  Today the crown would go to Cedars. That doesn't mean that there aren't others out there making a difference, but he's everywhere and I know for a fact that he's helped a lot of people in exiting the cult. He hits lots of different mediums of information and has a voice to his message that many like to hear. He's also quite well researched and produces good content.

  Obviously passing the crown doesn't mean following any one man, or woman, it just means that the person is the most well known authority on the matter and this is a thread on a forum without much context. I wouldn't take any of this too seriously.
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  EMDR Therapy Anyone?

  by Brian J in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  two+ months into marital counseling for my wife (pimi) and i (pimo).

  wife after decades of marriage decides for the first time to bring up separation due to, drum-roll please...... absolute endangerment of spiritual life.

  a spouse may constantly try to make it impossible for the mate to pursue true worship or may even try to force that mate to break god’s commands in some way.

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  Wait, she's bringing up separation for bullshit reasons and YOU are ordered to therapy? Am I missing something?

  I thought EMDR was about helping to bring back old trauma and to rewire the brain's response. I've never done it but it's talked about on episodes of The Mental Illness Happy Hour podcast that I like.

  So when are you setting an appointment for your wife to meet with Steve Hassan?
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  Article: Murder convictions overturned because Jehovah's Witness not allowed to serve on jury

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  2. friends

  http://www.sun-sentinel.com/local/broward/fl-sb-bilotti-convictions-overturned-20180214-story,amp.html.

  murder convictions overturned because jehovah's witness not allowed to serve on jury.

  february 14, 2018rafael olmeda.

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  Really, what part of life can't JWs screw up if they're involved in any way. I don't see why you would throw out all of the hard work done for that reason.