There are many that have experienced similar situations as yourself.
I honestly thought my wife would leave me for exiting JWs.
We are still together and it can be very challenging.
We are both committed to staying together and being a mutual support for the remainder of our lives.
There are a few topics I have started that may be of use to you and others.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/users/104050/kairos/topics
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/11040003/wife-has-vowed-remain-jw
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/11040003/wife-has-vowed-remain-jw
The first step to freedom is rejecting the "authority" of the elders over you. When I realized that they are strangers for the most part, why in the world would I want to tell them things that they will immediately gossip about? They were never my friends.
Feel free to PM me anytime.
This will be the hardest thing you have ever had to cope with.
The hardest part is already over, now that you are awake to TTATT.
I wish I had the patience to take a slower approach.
My JW wife constantly reminds me that there is no emergency.
There isn't.
If you need help getting the elders off your case, we can help you there, too.
Welcome to the forum and freedom.