Hey happy: did you end up making new friends? It must have been scary starting from scratch. Do you have any tips?
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Moving out after the borg
by happy@last ini was delighted to hear of adjustments news, but it did remind me of what i'm sure a lot go through when they leave, here's a little of my story:.
when i married as a jw, and when we moved there was always a team of willing volunteers happy to drive the van or move the furniture or decorate.
additonally when you get married you have a list of items people want to buy for you, even if some had odd taste we received lots of needed and wanted items, sometimes 2 or 3 of the same type.. as a da'd person, also seperated from my spouse i needed to move home.
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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?
by MissFit inwe talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.
i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.
i had been yo-young back and forth for years.
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You are right, but it is up to us to decide how much it will affect us. I think this site helps us work that out and gives us support while we are doing so.
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Sipping our drinks at the track..part 2.". I didnt tell them anything," she said
by MissFit in...as we were enjoying our weekly sunday "no meetings margaritas.. my friend and i have been meeting for lunch and margaritas ( okay mostly margaritas, we throw lunch in so we dont feel like alcoholics lol ??).
instead of going to meetings.. ( we discovered we could have lunch*margaritas* without the meeting first.).
my jw lady friend still goes out "in service" and stays in touch with her "service buddies" who also know me.. so she was telling me that they asked about me and mentioned that they would like to stop by to see me.
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I am going into withdrawals. My friend hasn't been feeling very well so we had to cancel our Sundays for a couple of weeks.
I check on her regularly to make sure she is okay. I am hoping we can get together again next week.
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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?
by MissFit inwe talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.
i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.
i had been yo-young back and forth for years.
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((((((Niveau))))) Lots of hugs. You are not alone. As you explore this site you will find many people struggling with the same issues you are.
Someone mentioned that many experience the stages of grief after they leave the org.
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It's my 25th yr anniversary of freedom
by rebel8 inapproximately 25 yrs ago today, i left the borg forever.. .
thank you jwn/jwd for helping me heal by listening to me.
there are not many greater gifts than freedom..
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Rebel, just found this thread. Congratulations. I also wanted you to know how much your posts have helped me remove some of my chains.
Thank you.
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Slip Sliding Away :I went to a 1 day assembly-Why?
by MissFit ini have not attended anything jw related for over a year.... until last week when i went to our one day convention.. why you ask?.
i can do what i want i'm a grown adult.. ok...ok...so my jw childhood friend who i have not seen forever, came by for a visit.. i mentally went through the check list:.
is she pioneering and need extra time?.
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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?
by MissFit inwe talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.
i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.
i had been yo-young back and forth for years.
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So sailaway: that is a perfect example of how people wake up differently. You woke up emotionally first then started on the mental while your husband was physically out, ended up being triggered mentally.
Shopaholic: I'm glad you worked through it to become emotionally free. It is a process. You are right each person has to find their own way.
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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?
by MissFit inwe talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.
i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.
i had been yo-young back and forth for years.
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Simon: well put. I noticed that surreal feeling at the circuit assembly I went to. I realized the talks had little substance to them.
I saw the review questions on the back of the program. At the end of each part the brother would ask the question and then answer it, giving us time to write it down.
The kicker? I was sitting there with the rest of them furiously writing down their wisdom?
I read it back and thought whaaat😩? They took 10-15 minutes to say that?
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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?
by MissFit inwe talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.
i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.
i had been yo-young back and forth for years.
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Vanderhoven: i agree. It seems like the important part is finding TTATT.
The trigger for looking can be either mental or emotional.
I needed more information to become mentally out.
Once processed things intellectually and logically, I was able to work on the emotional road blocks. The knee jerk responses programmed into me via countless B &M sessions (Beatings & meetings)
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Life is short and I'm gonna love it thread!
by poopsiecakes inso what are you doing to enjoy yourself?
doesn't have to be for anyone around you, or have anything to do with jw world.
just something that you do for you and only you and that fills your soul (whatever that means).
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I like to crochet, make my own windchimes.
and read.
Poopsie, I might start adding picturing people in their underwear to my list.