Turning the shunning policy around onto Mother...

by sf 71 Replies latest members private

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  avishai

  I'll get that spot for ya, hon!!
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  Junction-Guy

  Wow sKally, I cant believe im just now reading this thread, I missed reading it all along. I am so sorry about your son, and wish things could be different and that you had a loving caring mom,but Im proud that you were finally able to speak your mind to your mom. I hope and pray that your mom will one day have her eyes opened to the devious cult she's been serving. I appreciate you mentioning me, as no one ever seems to remember me on here.

  you rock !!!!

  Dave
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  patio34

  Hi sKally,

  That was an amazing interaction with your mother. It's good that it was a catharsis for you. Plus, you didn't let her salve her conscience one little bit, her being hypocritical to call now but not before.

  My condolences,

  Pat
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  purplesofa

  Hey,

  I read this when you first posted it, and meant to get back to it.

  The most tender people on the inside have the toughest outer shells.......

  purps
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  sf

  ~whispers: avishaiii~

  Drop the soap. Come with me. And bring the spumonti and whatever you like.

  

  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

  sKallyyyyyy, she says softly
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  Soledad

  Wow Skally. This has got to be the 2nd most powerful thread I have seen on this DB, the first place going to Mario's thread.

  I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I can't even imagine what it must feel like.

  How many of us had to go to therapy just to find out that we really didn't have good parents. That is a harsh thing to realize, and hurtful because we all want to be loved by our parents, but not at the cost of a "Society" named Watchtower and Bible Tract Society.

  I am at a point right now where I may have the same type of conversation with my mother. I have been avoiding her for a couple of months but the day will come where I will have to confront her, and when I do it will be fierce. There are a lot of things that I have to say. Most of it is JW related, but overall my mother is a downright abusive and virulent vitriolic individual, and she must know exactly how I feel about that. I know my mother well; I know her MO and her state of mind, so if things happen the way I envision it, that could well be the very last time I may see her alive.
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  sf

  could well be the very last time I may see her alive.

  
  Soledad, None of us are guaranteed we won't be hit by a bus each day we walk out the door.

  It could also be the last time you see her alive if you DON'T take the risk and tell her now or in near future.

  The other thing that made me nervous for so long that I failed to mention on initial post was that I have feared she would die before I could tell her what needed to be said. So I'm glad for that too. It is a tremendous relief knowing she heard it and was in sound mind. (Well, as sound as paxil can afford her) She can't say she was never warned.

  It's ironic thinking about how it was time. It was just time to tell her. And surprisingly, she actually listened. That was rare for her. I'll give her props on that.

  Don't push yourSELF though. Yet don't let too much time pass holding it in.

  {{ Well wishes }}

  Sincerely, sKally
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  zulukai

  sKally,,,oh my god..what difficult read. I so feel for you and your painful loss! Thanks for sharing your story with us. What you were able to say to your mother is what a great many of us wish we had the chance to say to our brainwashed, twisted friends and family. And I wholeheartedly agree with your assessment of adult jw's...the most socially bankrupt and morally corrupt people I have ever met. They know percisely what they are doing and enjoy it. There's something evil in the hearts of a lot of our fellow humans that mutates into the enjoyment of other people's sorrow when a religious authority gives them permission to act out. I saw a lot of petty dubs turn on me with a vengence because I left the org. I was never df'd nor did I write a letter to DA, yet I was treated like a leper by the only friends I had. It taught me a valuable lesson about human nature. Good on you for telling it like it really is. Your story rings with the bitter conviction of moral outrage spoken in grief and mourning...powerful stuff.
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  outnfree

  (((Skally))),

  My condolences on your recent loss , and my congratulations on your recent triumph! Adult JWs DO need to BE TOLD just how evil and hypocritical their choices are. I am proud of you for being fully aware of and pointing out your mother's motives for a call to "console" you when she didn't care to have contact with you or your children for years.

  May you have peace.

  outnfree
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  horrible life

  sKally

  I'm so sorry for your loss. I too have a mother like yours. I wish I had grown up in a "Worldly" home. My daughter went to her home for 2 days. She said she won't go back. My mother counted her time preaching to her. No love shown. No baking cookies. No going to the mall, like she thought might happen. Mom was the same JW, she always was. I will never send her back there. I'm so glad our children know they are loved.