Seattle Post Christmas Apostofest and Pictures

by Mulan 121 Replies latest members meetups

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  maybesbabies

  I was in tears also because of the meanspiritedness of some certain 'sweet, gracious' people who didnt expect I could hear what they were saying about me.

  In your case, Flower, you had a right to be angry. You overheard someone saying mean things about you, so your anger was justified. In this case, no one was being mean to RHCP, no one was putting her down. She had no right to be angry at the people who were there, her anger was entirely misdirected. I understand what she is going through, I've been there myself, but I also think that Princess has the right to be angry at some one who did say mean, nasty, and unjustified things to her.
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  Princess

  I don't even know where to start.

  I was still feeling very depressed and shook up Monday morning so I went for a run. It gives me a chance to clear my head and figure out what to do. I decided that despite my anger and hurt at being viciously attacked at my own party, I would forgive RHCP if she asked me to. I was expecting to come home to a PM apology or at the very least a heartfelt apology on the board. I found neither but rather "I'm sorry I was an idiot".

  When someone gets drunk and acts stupid at a party, they are an idiot and everyone gets that. When they go berzerk and sexually harrass another guest, they need to be stopped. When they then go off and verbally attack the host who forced the end of the harassment to the point where the host is potentially in harms way, they have gone WAY beyond "being an idiot".

  That is why I didn't accept "I'm sorry I was an idiot" as a sincere apology.

  I'm sorry Nina felt the need to delete my post but I hope she now understands why I didn't feel the need to take it to PM. RHCP didn't feel the need to privately apologize so I didn't feel the need to privately accept her pathetic attempt.

  Kitties, I wish I could hug you right now. I was on the way to the airport this morning as my mom was reading it to me. It made me tear up all over again. You are an angel, thank you.

  Ian, I hope this gives you a better understanding of my reasons for not accepting that apology. I totally understand that it goes against everything you believe in and I'm a very forgiving person. However, what she did to Ross was horrendous and then to follow it up by a verbal attack on me was truly over the top. I just can't let that be minimized.

  Thank you to all who sent me supportive PMs. I truly appreciate it and hope we can just all move on.

  I will not be having any open invitation parties after this. We really do not know who is sitting on the other side of the computer screen regardless of how long we pm and chat with them.

  I hope this doesn't get deleted. I feel like everyone is getting a chance to speak but me and I just want to get across my reasons for saying what I did.

  Rachel
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  cruzanheart

  Princess, that was beautifully said! And I would not have edited or deleted anything you said before except it seemed as though people were picking up on it and steering the thread into dangerous waters and I wanted to see if I could stop it before it got out of hand.

  Hugs,

  Nina
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  Ratboy

  I certainly don't blame you for not wanting to host a fest again. If I were you, I'd be all, "Mm-mm. Nope. Been there done that." But I still hope to see you at the next one when some of us decide it's time to have another one. I didn't nearly get to know people enough and I can hardly wait till next time.
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  candidlynuts

  princess that was an eloquent explanation and i apologize to you if i said anything out of line. i hope your next gathering is full of good cheer and warmth.

  hugs

  candy
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  Mulan

  It takes a lot more courage, strength and guts to apologize to someone than MOST people have..especially when you are completely in the wrong and you know it or when you have done something really terrible and know it.

  Where was the apology? Did I miss something? (her saying "I'm sorry, I was an idiot"..............way too short for the extent of her attack)

  I need to second what Rachel said about kitties. That was so wonderful, what you said earlier. Thanks so much for the explanation.
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  HICFlyGirl

  Man wish I could have been there. Sounds like a bully good time.
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  ApagaLaLuz

  I think you should ABSOLUTELY begin plans on the next one. Shit happens sometimes. But you can't write off all fest because of it.

  Princess, next time you plan a fest let me know. I'd be more than happy to volunteer for Bouncer duty ;)

  *muah*
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  NOdenial

  Edited and deleted because of cut and paste problems :>)

  Post is resubmitted below.
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  startingover

  I'm still waiting for more pictures.