WHAT DO YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR?
geez, what a post! sounds like you need some serious; back slapping fun ---not to mention a really serious ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT. Go easy on yourself ( dam, you sound like a REAL hard ass)
We should be taking you out for a nite of drinking ( heavy, dude, heavy drinking) and some very christian , theocratic encouragement ( like getting you layed very quickly; that would put a smile on your face for a while).
regards ( and give me call for cocktails when you are in NYC)
Frank ( of the "been there" class)
ps. ....when I look in the mirror; I see someone who says " lets relax, have another drink; some fun; and not take life too seriously..."
I'll be 36 in November and I've never felt better.....I take care of myself more than ever, because I know that weight and age sneaks up very quickly. I've been lucky with genes that don't age, but the greys in my hair sneak up, nothing that a little color can't take care of. I'm 10lbs heavier than I was when I was 18, big deal, I'm healthier now than before. My tummy has a few little scars from childbirth, only marking my experiences in life and the rewards were well worth it! I see an all around happier person, more set and more at peace with my life.
I'm 26 and have been through an eating disorder, serious mental illness & suicide attempt, incredibly controlling and manipulative parents who now shun me, losing everyone I thought I cared about and who I thought cared about me...and now my life is finally beginning. Because for all of those things, my life is beautiful and worthwhile. I have the best husband in the world (love ya doc!) and the most amazing friends. I'm back in school and have two great jobs. Life is crazy and hectic--and I couldn't ask for it to be any more perfect. That's what I see when I look in the mirror: someone fulfilled and joyful.
As to my body, for the longest time I hated it, fought with it, was sick every time I looked at it. And I'll never be beautiful in the classic sense of the word; I'll certainly never be skinny. But the love and attention doc shows me makes me feel beautiful, inside and out.
Country Girl, pardon my French, but WTF are you talking about???
I saw a pic of you taken around the time of the apostafest in Dallas, just a few months ago, and YOU LOOKED GREAT! Not very different at all from how you looked when I knew you before, and that's been a lot of years, right? And you're a lovely person on the inside, as well. So open your eyes, chica, and try to see yourself the way others do.
Well, I'm 44 and I'm feeling the weight of the years starting catch up on me. I'm not young and I'm not old, but going the wrong way...
Less hair, more wrinkles, a slight tummy.....
good question as I recently passed my 44th summer on the 3rd rock from the sun.
I see me... at the intersection of middle age and youth. I have a few long stories about quick decisions.... and as bad as the outcomes of some of those decisions are on the surface, I dont think I would trade any of them... the people and situations I have been in are part of my education...who I am.
I am starting to see a less conflicted soul. The WT years stole from me .....but I have some prime country to pass through in the future. I am starting to ask 'what is in this for me?" more often. Thats a good thing.
I know that I am right... and less willing to 'go to war' over that... let em figure it out on there own. I have to smell a rose.
I can still do everything I could at 25 with my body... but some of those things are not worth it anymore. I will never throw a baseball 90 MPH again, or swing a bat as hard or run fast again. "For a man my age" is creeping into conversation more often. But hey- If you cant do -teach.
I need to love better... and be a little more demanding of those who love me.... I gave a little too much and to the wrong people over the years. I learned a thing or two.
I look and like what I see.
I see a thing of beauty. Not perfect, but as good as it can be for me. I see sparkling eyes starting to crinkle a little on the smile, but that's ok. Because the smile comes easy & light.
Terry, I enjoy your thought provoking, intellligent posts. I'm sure people that look at you aren't seeing what you think you are seeing. Enjoy life!
Last year I purchased a HUGE mirror it was so big I had to get it cut down to fit on the wall I had it cut down to 4X8 (size of a sheet of drywall) then mounted it verticaly on the bathroom wall right outside the shower... I'd tell ya what I see but it ain't pretty (It is big but it ain't pretty)
works a hell of a lot better than a scale tho' you can look at a scale and say it's just numbers...
I see an ugly aging woman that used to be a knock out to some but just doesn't have it anymore. I see the woman behind the image who desperately wants to come back out but is afraid. Terri, you are damn fine if that's your picture. Where's the girl you saw accross the room. The sexiest thing you had ever seen. Go ask her out. What's she gonna say."NO" Oh well. Her loss. Stef. You are gorgeous, don't be so hard on yourself. We are all our own worst critics/enemies. I have been going back to the gym because I want to get my size 3/5 body back and right now I sure don't got it. I hate being fat. Come on guys see the beauty inside. Lets not be programmed by society anymore. Rusty
My reflection, silly!