I feel ya bro, we all have been there. You are smart getting advice here online. I see much good advice I sure wish I would have received when I started to wake up. I am sure I did and ignored much of it. I tried to convince my wife the JW's were wrong, and all my family. You are already showing much wisdom by not doing that.
The real test will be your relationship with your wife. My wife and I were the best of friends married 21 years. It's a long story, I'll try to keep it short. When I came out and told them I was blogging online and I didn't believe it anymore, my family cut me out of the corporation, stopped my company draws and my wife left me. I was then disfellowshipped and on my own. After a year of loneliness and heartache, I went back and got reinstated. My wife came back to me. This did not last long however and after another year, she left me again because I use medical cannabis and I stopped going to the meetings. Our divorce was final last September and that notice came on September 5th, our wedding anniversary... 21 years over. You cannot imagine the anger I felt inside my soul. I was robed of everything.
You still have your wife, it is up to you. I miss my wife so much, at times I wish I would have just put up with it and kept my sweetheart, and she was a real sweetheart, a beautiful woman I miss everyday. I have tears right now just typing this. You think you have pain now? Believe me, it can get worse and its all up to you.
It is all a matter of growth and enlightenment. No pain, no gain. There are good times as well as bad. You sound like a smart guy, I bet you will do better than I did.
I think the best thing to do right now is be a loving husband. You don't need to tell her your reasons unless she asks and then you better think twice. Just love her and do not isolate yourself from her. I started blogging and debating on forums like this one. She knew what I was doing and it hurt her. I should have been walking with her on the beach, taking her out and spending more quality time with her. I was so angry for my family selling me out financially I couldn't see straight. I started the toy business that made them rich. I still have huge resentments I deal with on a daily basis.
Count your blessings and be grateful for what you do have right now because you can loose it like many of us have. I even went to other churches when I first discovered TTATT. Can you imagine how my wife must have felt? She tried her best, she was alway loving, perfect in every way. You don't know what you have until you loose it bro. It can happen and who knows, in my case, it probably needed to happen. I have done nothing but learn more and more. I went through the atheist debate right off. I am convinced there is a spiritual world and I do not need to explain why. Seek and ye shall find. The truth will set you free but with wisdom one increases pain. Ignorance is BLISS.
I believe your going to do alright! Make the BEST of your journey and don't let anyone get you down, cause no harm to anyone because it will come back to you. Just be nice, not easy when your around a bunch of blind judgmental hypocrites who are sleep walking...
You are the one with the truth now and you can win her without a word if you can keep your mouth shut, I couldn't so I am passing this info on.
Good luck my friend and happy trails to you! Don't worry, be happy... work on that :)