Gee whiz...how horrible for you and your boyfriend/now husband. This lack of love is what has most bothered me in all of what has happened regarding the wedding. And from many of the responses here, I can see that weddings are a point of contention for many when it involves unbaptized, studying persons, etc. But the society is not going to change their unscriptural attitudes, not enough humility to do that; and more people involved in the org. will suffer at their hands. But as stated before; the dirt they do hopefully will open more and more eyes and many will leave the org. behind as the devious cult it really is.
I am sorry that your husband has to continue going through surgery to repair damages from his accident. How typical that the elders first think the worst about someone before knowing all the facts about the situation (accusing him of drunk driving). Shame on them. I hope he continues to improve over time.
Keep your chin up! (In my case it is my double chin I have to keep up!) Cathy L.