"If she doesn't want to be helped......not much you can do". "Some prefer to stay cause it's their comfort zone".
That's great advice. And, I agree with it, and wouldn't want to do anything less than what is honorable.
But, I'm not yet fully convinced that is the situation for 2 reasons:
(1) We hung out for 2 weeks and she was a completely different person (highly compatible), that is, UNTIL I expressed affection for her which triggered her fear and JW-imposed anger when I told her I had girlfriends.
(2) I read the Website reading you recommended. It described her to a T. From what she told me I suspect she is on her way to "fading". As the website states, something to the effect, that she is like a trained attack dog that has been "abandoned" by it's master (JW).
And, that with unconditional love, patience, time, etc. etc. such a person MAY have a chance to "recover".
( I was the lucky recipient of my now-departed wife's 100% unconditional love. It was the most wonderful experience while she was alive and somehow or other she lovingly, metaphysicalIy left it all to me.)
I could be 100% mistaken, but to me, this gal's behavior clearly falls within the parameters described in that recommended website. And, I can't describe in a post all that went on between us or even the nuances now.
Your advice is tops, but I'm not ready to give up yet. She's a human being and a nice-special one. I just wish there was an instructional manual from this point forward.
Thank you kindly GL, I really appreciate your help.