Ghosts?

by KGB 233 Replies latest members adult

  • rem
    rem

    LittleToe,

    In all honesty, it appears that what you are saying is that regardless of what evidence might be presented, you would still discount a "supernatural" explanation, in favour of there being an "unknown" physical explanation.
    Seems like science has become your "altar to an unknown god".

    I can understand why you would want to think that about me, but I'm a bit more complex than that. There was a time when I fully believed in the paranormal and spirits. As a child I saw demons at night - my brother saw them too. My mother always told me her ouija board experiences as a child and how it spelled out "jehovah" when she was not even a witness at the time. I used to experience night terrors quite often, thinking the demons were after me... I was a helpless child who could not even yell out the name Jehovah to protect me I was so scared when spirits came up to my bed. I was constantly hearing noises in the house, thinking there was some sort of intruder. Even today, I still get night terrors on occasion.

    Now as I grew older, such experiences just seemed to go away, even though I still believed in the spirit world. I started interpreting night terrors as physical intruders in the house, not spiritual ones. Maybe it's because I grew up in what used to be quite a dangerous little town.

    Anyway, as you can tell, this topic has been of great interest to me almost all my life. I started reading about it and found that every time I came accross a compelling ghost story or phenomenon, there was another side to the story that had some pretty valid points. I was always a pretty rational thinker, even though I wasn't trained in critical thinking, so these counter points made good sense to me. As I learned more about logic and reasoning, it was easier and easier to tell which side was relying on emotion and anecdotes, and which side was supported by fact.

    So I checked out some of the stories my mom told me about the Ouija boards and seeing Jesus in the cemetery and stuff like that. Seems my aunt knew nothing of these things and they were pretty much inseperable when they grew up. It became quite clear that my mom had a different way of thinking than I did which allowed her to suspend disbelief in the face of facts. She has created false memories about things and still does this to this day about things that I can verify. I don't fault my mother for this. I love her dearly. She was abused as a child and I know that those awful experiences affected her deeply and translated into the way she thinks and believes today.

    Anyway, enough about my mom and her stories. What I'm getting at is that it became clear that at least some and probably most of the stories I heard were bogus or exaggerated. What about my own experiences? Well, I started thinking more carefully about them... Did my brother and I really see demons ouside our bedroom door almost every night? I really thought we did, but was it really just me who believed I saw things and convinced my impressionable younger brother it was true? Now that I think back, that's exactly what happened. Memory is a weird thing. Could I be manufacturing this new memory? Quite possible, but when I talk to my brother about the experiences, he pretty much remembers it this way too.

    So was I just a fruitcake growing up? I don't think so. I believe I was trained at an early age to believe in these things so strongly that every little phenomenon was interpreted as a spirit. And instead of reasurring me that my experiences were just kid's imagination, my parents only reinforced my belief that they were real.

    So now I'm not afraid of demons anymore, but I still think it would be cool if there were some type of intelligent beings out there that we could contact. Again, I now believe this is just wishful thinking, though. I've read so much about alien abductions, ghost stories along with my own experiences to know that the brain is too complex to just simply take such stories at face value.

    Now I provided earlier on this thread some things that I would consider good evidence of the paranormal. Apparently these were not acceptable to you. All I can say is that maybe my standard of evidence is higher than yours? I don't know. I don't believe I've completely discounted the possibility of the spirit world. If there is evidence I will believe.

    Also, your caricature of my reasoning as circular, while entertaining, is not accurate.

    It can't be supernatural because there must be a physical explanation.
    It must have a physical explanation because it can't be supernatural.

    I've never said such a thing. The fact is that we already know physical explanations exist - there is no reason to prove that. We don't know that supernatural explanations exist - they are only believed due to the circular reasoning that I've stated before.

    What I've said time and time again is: Sometimes you just don't know the cause, but positing a supernatural explanation just because you don't know is an argument from ignorance. Causes should only be asserted based on positive evidence in their favor. So far for the paranormal, unfortunately, there is no compelling evidence.

    Sounds pretty closed-minded to me, but that's just IMHO.
    If it gets you through the day, so be it

    Hey, I believe labeling every unexplained phenomenon as supernatural is closed minded, but it's just a different way of thinking, I guess. Especially in light of the fact that so far in history, such arguments from ignorance have been proven to be false. Rainbows have a non-supernatural explanation now, lightening has a non-supernatural explanation now, earthquakes have a non-supernatural explanation now, night terrors have a non-supernatural explanation now... the list goes on and on. History hasn't been good to argument from ignorance theory.

    I'm still looking for scientific and physical explanations for some of it, but I suspect that an answer won't be forthcoming in my lifetime, if ever.

    Some things we may never know in our lifetimes. It's ok not to know everything. Sometimes "I don't know" is the most honest answer. I believe it to be more honest than making up and answer like a supernatural one.

    In view of the current trend of antagonistic nit-picking, that seems to prevail these days, I'm blowed if I'm going to subject my psyche to that kind of treatment on these issues.

    I agree I am antagonistic at times. Acually, I'm exasperated on these threads because believers continually act as if they know what the answer is. I'm trying to make them see that perception is not always reality and throw in some modern thinking and facts on the subject. I'm trying to show that it's ok not to know. I think knowing you have an answer when you really don't is quite arrogant.

    But on this particular thread, I don't think you could accuse me of that specifically in my dealings with Mary. On the contrary, I've been on the defense in this entire thread and she is the one who has been antagonistic. She has been the one who has continually tried to get me to make up a cause for her friend's experience. She won't accept "I don't know". I think I've responded the best I can to such harrasment. Let the reader use discernment.

    That having been said, I generally enjoy your posts

    Same here!

    Mary,

    Rem's smug and condescending attitute on the subject has become rather a bore

    If you honestly believe using facts and logical reasoning to make my case is condescending and smug then that is only a reflection on yourself. In addition, you have been the one doing the name calling on this thread. You have been extremely rude to me. I just don't whine about it. I combat your rudeness with facts and reasoning. I can see how that must be frustrating to you.

    Even if a ghost appeared in front of him or bit him on the ass, he'd still be there trying to come up with a scientific explanation.

    Yes, that's right. But if there were positive evidence for spirits and there were no other natural explanation, then I would definitely believe in ghosts. What's wrong with that? Does my logical way of thinking affect you negatively in any way? So far on this thread you have not been able to counter any of my points. Instead you try to attack my character. I'm positive that many readers of this thread and others that we have shared will also come to this conclusion.

    Kenneson,

    Speaking of boring, I think a world devoid of all mystery is indeed a boring one.

    Rainbows are not any more boring now that we understand them.

    Merc',

    Rem, please tell us what your experinces are?

    Merc', I've briefly outlined some above, though I haven't really gone into detail. Many of the memories are sketchy and I'm afraid that if I continue to relate the stories they will become more and more exaggerated. I've tried to be extra conservative in the relating of my experiences at this time.

    rem

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    Rem:
    It's not that I want to particularly believe anything about you, my friend. I was just calling it like I saw it, couched carefully in phrases such as "it appears", "it seems", etc.
    Your rebuttal of my perceptions seems quite reasonable

    My "caricature" of circular reasoning was just to supply a similar point to the one that you suggested. I was really just trying to bring to your attention that it appeared that you were using similar reasoning to those that you accused...

    Seems like, if anything, I've managed to give you an opportunity to show that you can play nice even whilst defending your perspective - go me!!! and while I'm at it, "go you", for rising to the occasion.
    LOL

    LIke I said before, I generally enjoy your posts, it's really just been a few of the recent inflammatory ones that I've taken issue with. Your posts often seem well reasoned and fair.

    It's one of the foibles of this kind of medium (pun intended) that it's hard to see expression. Straight comments can sometimes appear barbed (not that I'm laying that accusation on you, in your last post), and a little fun and rib-digging can be misconstrued.
    Even emoticons don't always help, if someone is having a bad day.

    Btw, thanks for taking the opportunity to express some of your own experiences and your reasons for coming to the conclusions that you did. It's probably done much to asuage the concern that you were merely a book learned disbeliever with no concept of what anyone was talking about

    I can understand your exasperation, at times. I feel the same way about foam-mouthed evangelicals, who come barging in here spouting off their own brand of "Christianity", with no concern for what everyone has been through.

    Back on-thread...
    I found that earlier story of the girl who walked past, followed up with the finding of photographs and a height chart, fascinating.
    I know it's not beyond the realms of possibility for the memory to have adjusted the face to fit the facts, if I were being ultra-sceptical, but it still doesn't explain the apparition.

    I wonder if it is the connotations of the word "supernatural" that puts so many off using it to label certain unexplained phenomena?

  • Mary
    Mary
    Rem said about Mary: With the information gathered so far the only conclusion is a supernatural explanation. It is completely impossible that the kids were playing a prank or the phone fell because it was sitting crooked, or an animal brushed against it or any other physical explanation. Rem: There is not enough information to say for sure... more investigation is required to find the cause. In light of the above physical possibilites, a supernatural explanation is highly unlikely.

    You're right: My perspective IS that it would be completely impossible that the kids were playing a prank seeing as they were sitting right there with their parents when it happened, as I already stated. This was the first thing I asked her when she told me about it: where were the kids? Unless of course, you're suggesting that seeing as the parents eyes were fixed on the TV instead of the kids sitting in front of it, that they somehow managed to get up right in front of them, go over to the phone, toss it, come back and sit down without them even seeing them. As for your theory that an animal might have brushed up against it, well that would be a neat trick seeing as they don't have any pets. As for the phone sitting crooked on the table and falling off, well this too would be a good theory, except that the (antique) table is over 3 feet long and the phone sits almost in the middle. If it had been on the edge of the table, you're right; it could have fallen off. However it's kinda hard for something to fall off a table when it's not even close to the edge.

    So to sum up what happened: The family was sitting watching TV; the boys were watching it with them and were no where near the phone when it happened. They have no pets; the phone does not sit on the edge of the table. Seeing as it defys the laws of physics that a physical object can somehow pick itself up and land 5 feet away, then obviously something quite extrodinary happened that defys the laws of physics. Given the other strange experiences they've had in the house, and given the fact that these are educated, normal people with nothing to gain from spinning tells, then to me, it points to a supernatural phenomenon.

    Even if a ghost appeared in front of him or bit him on the ass, he'd still be there trying to come up with a scientific explanation.

    Yes, that's right. But if there were positive evidence for spirits and there were no other natural explanation, then I would definitely believe in ghosts

    You would? Very good Rem. I'm impressed. And then what would you do if then, someone else strongly insinuated that you were either a liar, were "seeing things", had mental problems or something else. Would you not be totally insulted that someone who didn't witness your experience had all these "explanations" that did not represent what you went through?

    This is what I'm saying: You weren't there. You did not experience or see what they saw. Neither did I. But I do not automatically assume that this is just some tale she told; she's not like that, nor is her husband. I've told you as much as I know about what happened. But even after I told you that the boys were sitting there in the room with their parents when it happened, and that they have no pets, you still suggested after that, that it could have been the kids playing a prank, or it could have been an animal, because you do not want to accept the fact that there is no rational or physical explanation for what happened.

    Does my logical way of thinking affect you negatively in any way?

    Absolutely not. Logical thinking is imperative in any thinking society. However, some of your suggestions as to what happened are not logical, such as the the kids playing a prank or an animal brushing against it. I took each one of your arguments and showed that they were invalid and showed why, yet you completely ignore the explanations and once again insinuate that they are lying or aren't remembering the scenario properly.

    So far on this thread you have not been able to counter any of my points.

    Actually Rem, if you read all of the postings over, you will see that I have been able to counter ALL your points; they're just not the answer you're looking for. Let me reiterate them once again: You: The kids were playing a prank Me: The boys were sitting in front of the TV when it happened with the parents; they were nowhere near the phone. You: An animal brushed up against it Me: They have no pets You: They are exaggerating what happened or are mentally unbalanced; Me: These are highly educated people with respected reputations and careers who have nothing to gain by "exaggerating" the experiences and they witnessed these experiences first hand. They know what they saw. You: The phone fell off the table and rolled 5 feet Me: The phone sits much closer to the middle of the table, not on the edge, so it would be impossible for it to fall off the table and roll 5 feet away. Yes there are rational explanations for alot of experiences that people have, but certainly not ALL of them and this, IMHO is one of them. There is no rational, physical explanation for what they've experienced. In The Sign of Four, by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle a quote is there that perhaps you are familiar with:

    "Whenever you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth."
  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    Now, now, Rem, be nice

  • MegaDude
    MegaDude

    Rem,

    I just wanted to say that your stories of your childhood are very, very similar to mine. My mother was a demon-obsessed JW freak and she was constantly talking to us as young children that demons were everywhere, demons attack and hurt people and that they hated us for being JWs. You know, when you're a 2nd grader, that kind of stuff scares the living hell out of you. Even as a child I started having trouble sleeping because of it. I experienced what I thought were demonic attacks a number of times that were so intense I would get stiff as a board from fear until having a micro or mini-seizure from the experience. Extremely unpleasant to live in fear of an invisible sadistic enemy. There were many nights as a 4th grader I remember leaving my room in the middle of the night and just sitting in the hallway where the light was on, too afraid to go back into my room. Those were some miserable years of existence. I am ashamed to say these night terrors followed me well into adulthood and troubled me greatly for years. Like you, I believe my experiences were totally conjured up only in my mind. I do believe there is evidence of the supernatural (which is always natural once you understand how it works) but I believe that my demon experiences were not. I can understand why you have such a loathing of this kind of belief, the belief in evil spirits. The way it was used on us as children was monumentally stupid, cruel and abusive.

  • Kenneson
    Kenneson

    Rem,

    It is precisely mystery that keeps us seeking to find answers. If it is ever all removed, then we will have all the answers. What room would that leave for investigation, discoveries and inventions? With all that gone, is what I mean by a world devoid of mystery being boring. The spice of life, it seems to me, is the continuous seeking to understand the unknown. In other words, if everything is known , what is there left to be known and understood? And if ever we reach that point, will we be the happier for it?

  • gumby
    gumby

    Many times discussions on this topic are mainly about whether or not supernatural forces or entities exist or not. Sometimes someone will say.......why would a ghost just appear here and there anyways?

    Actutually the subject of WHAT PURPOSE would a spirit have in always scaring the shit out of someone is a good one? Why would a plate fly across a room, or a phone fly off the table? The only message a person could possibly get from a ghost story is a bad experience, a scary one, a threatfull one, a negative one.People are always terrified and threatened.

    Why would a dead person whom spirit still exists....if this is what it is.....do this?

    Why would a "demon" do this? If he had this power and intelligence, wouldn't he use a craftier way to seduce gods people away instead of scaring the shit out of them by hurling a plate across the room?

    Why do all these paranormal events involve scary negative stuff with no logical explanation or purpose?

    It seems everything unseen, that is claimed to be understood, has the most illogical explanations behind them and that's what brings debate against it.

    Gumby

    ( in saying this I do not doubt the experiences mentioned here are not factual )

  • SixofNine
    SixofNine

    Kenneson, I guess you won't "get" what I'm going to say, but, it's really sadly humorous to see the less-scientific-type-person preaching to the more-scientific-type-person about the wonders of mystery and discovery. If you could see the irony, this discussion would likely be much shorter.

  • KGB
    KGB

    This is my last experience with the other side.

    It was spring of 84' I was living in Austin, Texas. I was married and a 1 year old son. My wife had not met any of my family yet since we were married in 82' so we had been planning a trip to the northwest to visit. My Grandfather whom traveled to Arizona for the winters was soon to move back north and so we decided to go when they got back home so that he could see his first Great Grandson. One mourning my wife tells me "we had a visitor last night" I said who came over I don't remember anyone knocking on the door? She said that it was not that type of visitor. I'm thinking ok what is this a joke or something right ? She say's No it's no joke it was a short heavy set man with gray hair and she went on to describe some things in detail that I knew who she was tlaking about, I said that sounds like my grandpa your describing. My wife had never met him nor had she even seen a picture as I don't even have a picture of them now. All that day I kept thinking about what she had said..The next day I received a call from my cousin that while driving their motorhome back up north my grandmother was driving and was getting tired so she nudged my grandpa to drive he died there in his sleep.

    I did not see the spirit but the way it all went down and knowing my wife she would not lie to me about that or anything else I knew what she had told me was true. I believe that he wanted to see his Great Grandson so much and I am also named after him as I was his oldest Grandson that he came to us before he went into the light..

  • onacruse
    onacruse

    ((rem)):

    There was a time when I fully believed in the paranormal and spirits. As a child I saw demons at night - my brother saw them too. My mother always told me her ouija board experiences as a child and how it spelled out "jehovah" when she was not even a witness at the time. I used to experience night terrors quite often, thinking the demons were after me... I was a helpless child who could not even yell out the name Jehovah to protect me I was so scared when spirits came up to my bed. I was constantly hearing noises in the house, thinking there was some sort of intruder. Even today, I still get night terrors on occasion.

    That, my dear fellow, completely clarifies for me your strong responses to this topic. Thank you for sharing your deeply personal experience.

    We struggle together.

    Craig

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