Hi everyone I'm 19 year old and I've been a jehovahs witness for 3 years now. I've followed the rules and I'm even a pioneer. But I've hid the secret of a boyfriend I had from india. My parents found out, as well as found some explicit messages and they are going to tell the elders.
A little clarification would be helpful. You mentioned three years as a JW were you a born-in or are you referencing being baptized?
Based on their over reaction and wanting to tell the Elders....... were they born in or converted? Is your father an Elder....... a lot of Elders want to keep their position and are more then willing to throw their child under the bus.
As a 19 year old why are your parents so reactionary? Your a young adult. I know it's tied up in the rules and obedience that JW's are subjected to. But how did they come to find these things on your phone or computer?
I also understand that parents have house rules while you are under their roof. But you also have a right to have some things kept private.
What do they expect to achieve by turning you in?
If I understand it, this was pretty much an on line exploration. And that you were not having sexual contact with you boyfriend.
I also agree that you should destroy any emails and or provocative images.They were meant for your boyfriend and you to share not your parents and certainly not any Elders.
The fact that they are anxious to turn you in is mystifying. Perhaps you need to move out to your Aunt's home to demonstrate that you will not be treated like a child. If they don't have the images and text you can claim they over reacted to something on a more innocent level.
The Elders have more petty rules to enforce then your simple mistake which really is that you didn't delete anything you wouldn't want your parents to see.
No matter how it turns out you will be seeing your parents and the JW religion in a different light. Conditional love and unspecified rules, that are not shared with the flock, cause a lot of innocent contact to be elevated to a major crime against Jah. Which is just nonsense.