"What is this "religion"?- the short answer- it is a cult.
If you don't want your entire life controlled by some men in NY then you must leave this guy. If you think your 'love' is somehow stronger, more special or different than everybody else' think again. The internet is filled with stories of ubm's (unbelieving mates) and ex jw's who are still married to jw's and their experiences with the wt (watchtower ie jw's)
You may wonder how a few men in NY can control your life and that of your honey?
The gb (governing body) tell people how-
to dress (can be called into the back room for the following- pants too tight, too loose, panty lines showing, nipples still showing through bandaids,heavy duty grandma bra and undershirt and sweater, toe cleavage, color of shirts in some congs, sock choices, tie choices, etc...etc...etc...
wear their hair-too long, too short, if you are cancer patient and have maybe 2 wigs of different colors you may get heat over that, too trendy, etc...etc..
facial hair-no beards for example
makeup - too much, wrong colors, too trendy, etc..
no holidays- except an anniversary -no birthdays, no Christmas, no Easter, no Halloween, no 4th of July
no blood- expect to offer your children up to the altar of the wt if they are in need of blood, your honey will let you die if are in need of blood (if you stay with this guy get your medical power of attorney in order and let local hospitals & doctor know, carry a notarized letter with you at all times)
how you can or can't make love- this is subject to change
naturally all your beliefs re: God
who you should associate with
no yoga- though some disregard this
no R movies-nope, not ever
many pg 13 movies are out too
and don't forget how you spend your time!- field service every Sat morning (typically 4 hours), one meeting mid week (typically 3 hours) and Sun meetings (another 4 hours or so) and don't forget personal 'study' during the week.
This is not a complete list but should get you started putting together your own pro & con list of staying with this guy or not.