In September 2001, I had a brief relationship with a coworker. Nothing came of it, we weren't a match. But I was attracted to her, and I still am somewhat disappointed that more didn't come of it.
Well, today she tells me she's going to San Francisco for a week, her plane leaves in the morning. I vaguely remember her telling me a few months back that she had a boyfriend, but that he was moving to San Fran. So I put 2 and 2 together.
I asked her about her new guy, she very eagerly told me about him, and asked me if I had any women in my life. I said no, I don't get many opportunities. The conversation went back to her new guy, and I said something to the effect that I wish it had been me. I noticed that she didn't appreciate my saying this, so I quickly tried to make some small talk.
I left her cubicle and thought nothing of it. Later, my boss comes to my desk and summons me to go down with her to HR with her. I knew i was in trouble for something, but I had no idea what. My mind started racing - Did I do any inappropriate web surfing from my work computer? Nope. Had I made any inappropriate advances towards any coworkers? Nope. Since the last incident happened (which some of you may recall), I have totally tried to avoid even giving the slightest hint of any such overtones towards my female colleagues.
Well, on the way down I said to my boss "My mind is racing! I have no idea what this is about!" She says "It has something to do with a conversation you had with ____ today". I couldn't believe it!
I still am trying to understand why what I said made her so upset. Ladies, can you help me to understand? I'm embarrassed to say that it seems like I make women uncomfortable sometimes. In no way shape or form did I intend to hurt or harrass my coworker with what I said today.
I am really afraid that I'm going to get the ax. At the very least I am probably going to be suspended. I am going to call the HR guy tomorrow and totally grovel like I've never grovelled before.
Once again I'm feeling like a total waste of flesh. Any encouragement would be nice right now.