She will be asking her daddy questions about JW things and I cannot decieve her little mind, yet if I answer honsetly, she will see the division between me and my wife, make a big issue of it and of course this will start a mini WW3. So If I am dishonest with her, the peace continues but I suffer from supporting the JW falsehoods and I will feel like scum for that. If I am honest with her it will bring out JW momma bear and I will be the target. BU2B
BU2B - ? I am confused by the lack of concern your wife has
for your feelings. My "momma bear" do you mean she controls
people, her family, through rage and anger ? I knew a woman
like that, she would go from a hysterical rage to sobbing, back
and forth rageing and then sobbing for hours. It was mind numbing
to all around her, and the trigger would rarely be predictable, so
everyone is on pins and needles around her. I don't know if you
are in the United States or whether the laws where you live will
protect you rights to your own children, but find out. Don't be
threatened by this woman. She is more vulnerable than you are,
because she has an infant, she is not going anywhere with a 2 month
old baby to take care of. Think about it. Tell her you are exhausted
and that you both need more rest for your health and that means
no nights out, and weekends off and quiet family activities.
Ask her some questions, she may even have doubts she is not
sharing with you, herself. She may assume the WT will keep you
"faithful" and that without the meetings you would go off the rails
and cheat on her and "go wild". This is the message the WT indoctrination
is constantly telling her. Fear. Fear of chaos without the meetings, that
without the "organization" there is "no where to go", and you will be
taken over by the "world" she may see it as safety for her.
Try to use scripture to show her, she needs to listen calmly and
take your opinions and concerns to heart and keep what you tell
her confidential. You need to get closer to this woman, she sounds
like a complete stranger, that you are living with, and afraid of.
You guys seem to be sleeping with the enemy.
Try working on real emotional and intellectual intimacy, intimacy
is not located between her legs guys.