My fade took place years ago way back when we were referred to as servants not overseer's. I held three congregational positions when I was pioneering where the need was great. There had to be a great need if a 19 year old was given 3 major positions to fill!
I met my wife in Western PA (where the congregation was located) and she was my pioneer partner. She's still my partner we hit the big 50 anniversary last November.
In my case Armageddon was a big no no, couldn't see killing off perfectly fine people because I failed to get a WT in their hands or they simply didn't want to have anything to do with the JW'S....heck after a while I didn't want to have anything to do with them.
My wife said find with her she never believed in it, her mother did and the JW's helped out the family in a real time of need so she appreciated the good loving ones and rejected everything else. Here's one good rule I'll pass along.......... only marry casual JWs it makes it so much easier to leave the WT with your family intact.
Besides Armageddon the blood issue drove me nuts...... as soon as I realized I would never allow any children of ours or my wife to die by abstaining from blood the veil was gone. We decided to fade after we left the congregation so that they and us could at least have decent memories of one another. And thats what we did.......two final thoughts. After we said our goodbyes to the friends....... as we drove out of this small (7000) city I felt really bothered by something.....after 3 or so years we didn't have a single non witness to say good by to. It was like we had never lived there! The other thing I wanted to mention is that one of my extra duties was to be the publisher cards servant (whatever it was called) and lo and behold our publishers cards went missing!
Our fade was successful no DF no shunning. That wasn't a problem.....the problem was learning how to live in the real world. It took us at least five years before I felt like I knew what I was doing.
