Another sad non jw falling for a baptised jw girl story (page 2)

diamondiiz

As long as a person is a JW at heart, meaning they were believing JWs who may be inactive but deep inside they still believe WTS is the truth or closest thing to the truth they are DAMAGED GOODS!!!! Take the most beautiful/hansom person on the planet in your eyes, and if that person is a jw at heart, they are NFG!!!!

Your relationship will suffer and one day you'll see them returning to the cult. It's easier for an ignorant person waking up to this reality that their partner is returning to the cult than some of us who know what the outcome will be and yet be in that wreckage of a relationship waiting for the other to give into their deep rooted cult personality.

Until a xJW/JW understands wts is a cult and they have researched and have proved to themselves that it is a cult, they are not relationship material. If you or others who disregard what people here are telling you, your relationship will be full of problems. Emotional problems, intimate problems, guilt problems, speaking freely will be a big problem. You also won't have a real family since your partner's family will be "drones" who will either want to suck you into the cult or will view you and your other half as bad association. If you have kids, you may get stuck in the relationship longer for the sake of your kids and it won't get better and you can only hope your mate doesn't decide to return to the cult and take your kids with her/him because their cult fear makes them believe that soon your kids will be killed by Jehovah if they don't return to the fold.

This may be a generalization of JWs but from personal experience and what others have said about their own relationships, this generalization is probably close to 99% true.

LisaRose

I am sorry, it is very hard to get your heart broken. This girl should not have led you on, but she is young and sometimes young girls give into temptation. On your part, you knew that there were impediments to having a relationship with her, but you went ahead, hoping for the best. Let it go, if it meant to be, it will be. I was in a similar situation when I was young. We did eventually get together, but it was many, many years later, I had to realize this was not the right religion, and that took quite a while.

undercover

Dude... No means no

She had herself a little fling, JW style, hurt you and then used the ole JW, "it's not me, it's you" and she moved on. Now it's your time to move on. Yea, it hurts, but lesson learned. And be glad you didn't get really hooked up with this girl and all her JW dysfunctionalisms. Trust us on that one...

zeb

undercover;

Has got it in one. Yes it hurts but walk away. she is very confused wants to be the party girl and the saint. sorry only heartbreak coming your way if you persist.

In a few years time she will be a mother to four all 9 months and ten minutes apart.

MrFreeze

Sometimes you just have to let it go. It can be the hardest thing to do but... well there it is.

Aussie Oz

She had her fun, accused you of being different so she could ease her conscience.

you should have listened to your friend at the start and not pursued her.

you know the right answer, you just don't want to hear it...so hear it is;

RUN

how loud do need that yelled?

oz

problemaddict

Well if you are out anyways, why not write her a very kind letter stating that you care about her very much, and know that she is torn because of her indoctrination. Tell her that you are concerned for her, because normal people do not have so much pain and anxiety when getting to know a man or woman. You think this is because of an unbalanced view towards her religion and you have done some very hard research into her faith. You are concerned for her personally, and she should go to www.jwfacts.com

There. Didn't tell you to run.

garyneal

problemaddict

I will just respond with *like*

steve2

men fall for women from all sorts of complicated backgrounds and belief systems - and vice versa (women fall for men...).

It hurts big time but better you experience the hurt now rather than later. Imagine if you had, say, ignored your own heart's common sense and converted to the JWs just to stay with her and then suddenly came to your senses after marrying her that you had effectively married into a religion you do not believe.

Lick your wounds, man, and be relieved the pain you're now feeling will ease relatively more quickly than the pain you'd have of having your marriage, home, reputation and livelihood torn in two if you had converted to the religion for the sake of loving a woman.

notjustyet

You named this thread "another sad non Jw ,..."

This means more than likely you have read abou the other recent ones and the answers that the "learned" have shared before you. Are you hoping for some answers that are not in alignment with the ones already shared?

I know how bad it is to be in lust with someone but your acking for advice that you already know your going to hear.

Walk VERY FAST away from this deal and get some hypnotist to try to remove that memory that you have for her as it will lead to much more heartache.

And in this case it is NOT better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.

NJY

Another sad non jw falling for a baptised jw girl story

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