Need Some Tough Love & Help

by Simon Morley 100 Replies latest jw friends

  • snare&racket

    Whats worse? Your daughter finding out you do the same naughty little pocket shuffle that every man on earth does or that you and every other male in that kingdom hall is lying about not doing it....

    Welcome to telling the truth about masturbation. Simple human anatomy and biology dictates that if you didnt 'choke the chicken' you would wake up to a genocide in your pants every morning.

    Telling the truth in life is what is important and the important thing for your daughter to know is that living a lie is not really living!

    It is a normal, healthy thing. Dont let anyone lie to you otherwise.

  • Simon Morley
    Simon Morley

    Thanks all. I have told my wife about the site, i don't think it would help. It seems her biggest issue (last hour of texts) is my hypocrisy while being an elder and that in promoting certain virtues, moral and religious beliefs I was guilty of violating such beliefs. I am hoping she can get over the initial anger of the betrayal and that reason can set in and I can begin to work at restoring her confidence in me. How should I respond (if at all) to the texts? Just agree and move on....

  • wasblind

    I hope everything go well for you Simom Morley

  • Simon Morley
    Simon Morley

    its not going well. a lot of texts about betrayal of her, my daughter and the people I pretended to "flock - instead you were getting your joillies watching porn" . I feel like just letting her rant and not respond...

  • mrsjones5

    Let her rant. And get the both of you to a good therapist, quickly.

  • PaintedToeNail

    Maybe you could step down from being an elder. Tell her she is right, you have been a hypocrite, and you will rectify the situation by immediately stepping down. This may enable you to fade away with far less stress.

    I agree with mrsjones, it isn't your daughter's business. If your wife insists on telling your daughter, your wife might be shocked that it doesn't bother her as much as it bothers Mrs. Morley. Your daughter is of a more modern generation and might be enjoying porn of her own.

    Whatever happens, I wish you the best.

  • Pterist

    Yes, addictions are what they are...addictions. This will be your first starting point, yourself, tell your wife what you intended to do about your addiction, and you need her help and support. It can be done, been there, and it's still a daily battle, one day at a time, Jesus came to save sinners, relay on his strengh not your own, and you will get through this storm.

    Shalom friend.

  • 00DAD

    SM: It seems her biggest issue (last hour of texts) is my hypocrisy while being an elder ...

    Of course, the WT Rules and Regulations are carefully designed to make hypocrites out of everyone. They rule by guilt, fear and submission hoping you won't wake up and notice the fuckers running this religion are much bigger hypocrites than you.

    This is how abusers control others in a co-dependent relationship. You are bad; they are good.


  • Witness My Fury
    Witness My Fury

    Is this harking back to the habit of many JW women to expect their husband to be like Jesus Christ? Anything less is a woeful disappointment to them ....

  • Qcmbr

    Simon - just to make you feel a bit better. Pretty much all men do it (I'll let ladies speak for themselves) including the other Elders in your congregation. Remember that if you ever get hauled into the back office for a chat.

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