First of all, Thank you to all of you for your support and kind responses. You've given me some things to think about. I've had this fantasy for a long time of going to his KH and watching him squirm as I sit through a meeting and then approach these "elder" people (are they 100?) for a private chit chat. It makes me smile but truthfully too bold for me. Plus, while I don't believe sex between consenting adults is wrong, I do believe it's private and frankly, I'm not interested in lowering myself to the JW's weird standards and sharing my sex life with a bunch of strangers (and potential perverts). I like the idea of a phone call or letter though, but I'll have to see how much I want to invest in this. I don't think he should be free to hurt others with no consequences, and I like the diea of throwing a wrench into that.
He tried to "get" with me a few weeks ago and I said, 'you can lie to me, and you can lie to your KH people, but there's 'someone' you can never lie to. HE knows and sees everything that you do." He was pretty quiet and very shortly after that said he had to go home and left hastily. Ha. After that he hasn't really made a move on me. He says I throw it in his face so he won't do it ever again.
Anyhow, I replied to his email and told him that by my standards we were never friends and we certainly wouldn't be now. Friends don't lie or hide their friends. I also told him the best thing he can do is never contact me again. I'm getting a new phone and new # so I can get away from his daily sweet texts and I told him that too. In the meantime my current mobile is out of commision (I purposely broke it when I was mad thinking about all those bloody texts for the last 2 years).
A few points of clarification: his landlady and her adult daughter are former Pentecostals studying with JWs and he goes to meetings with them. I don't think they were actually studying together. As for pulling him out of this cult. Believe me I tried. I realize I took the wrong approach and did everything wrong. I never held my words and told him I thought it was a cult right from the start. In hindsight, I should have been more respectful and I really do regret my harsh words (tho I believe them). I questioned the false prophescies and what the bible said about that, and he said he wasn't equipped to answer my questions but I could meet with others who could.
I wasn't raised in a religious home, but my parents were strong stewards of the Golden Rule. We weren't taught to do the right thing to insure a ticket to paradise; we were to do the right thing because it was the right thing to do. Plain and simple and it's not hard to do the right thing, so I don't see what all the fuss is about with so many religious people. And why such a vengeful Creator? I know mere humans with more capacity for forgiveness than this angry, cruel Jehovah they worship. Again, I'm not religious, but I always thought the message of Christ was one of love and forgiveness and I do strive to live with that mindset as much as I can. He always questioned my family and whether we were religious, as he thought we behaved like religious people -- simply because we have morals I guess. Yep worldlys have morals - what a surprise! I find it VERY insuting that this religion presumes I'm under Satan's influence. It all seems so childish and simple minded to me. I don't believe in Satan. We make our own choices to do good or bad. It's called taking personal responsibilty - not blaming Satan.
If we are lucky, God gave us legs so we can walk and run and we don't need others to carry us. God gave us arms so we can pick things up and not rely on others to carry our things, and God gave all of us a brain so we can use it and we don't need others to think for us. Sorry I rant now... these are some things that I think.
Thanks to all of you again! Peace