Nice to hear from you, New22Day. I am a non-JW and I married my Witness. Would you believe it took him, the cad, two months after our marriage to admit to my existence at the hall? And with that it was because I got mad, followed him to the hall and sat down beside him. He was idiotic enough to lean over and furiously beg me under his breath for me to sit somewhere else! As if! I left him no choice. Without my saying a word, he rushed back to the elders and arranged a hasty meeting. It was precious, let me tell you, to see those elders fumble through their bibles. I remained stoic. Job done.
Stop knocking yourself over what you could have done differently. It is all on him.
As you may suspect by now, for the Witnesses it is all about appearances. You were his dirty little secret, his secret addiction, and no matter how good you were, you would never be "good" enough for the hall. It doesn't even do any good to report on him to the elders, as they will take his word over yours just because of who you are.
I will say our relationship works because I have the power position, and as a mature woman I won't sublimate my character for any man. I am me and as much as my hubby may express his desire that I be more "acceptable" he really does love my freedom. Your young man is probably too immature to realize he had a gem in his hands.