i have started my da letter !

by unstopableravens 65 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  Calebs Airplane

  I wrote 8 pages before I realized I was simply playing by the Watchtower's stupid rules. More importantly, I was making life easier for them since all they would have to do is say "C.A. is no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses" and then have the closing prayer.

  Write the letter if you must, but I can guarantee that it will not be read in its entirety. This is because the JW mind is trained to immediately shut down at the slightest hint of criticism towards the Corporation. Just saying, your efforts will likely be in vain...
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  NewChapter

  I just sent my letter in around 2 weeks ago. I first was going the 6 page route, but I realized it made no difference at all. Who knows if they would even bother to read it? I'm an apostate, in their eyes, and therefore nothing I say has any authority or persuasion. My letter was 2 sentences.

  I, (NewChapter) am no longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses. I do not wish to be contacted over this decision.

  In the end, my ultimate goal was not to have them bothering me over the decision, so I added the second sentence.

  If it gives you some kind of closure, go with the longer letter. As long as you know it probably will have not effect on them, then there is no harm.
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  unstopableravens

  c.a. i think you have a good point it seemed when i have talked to them it always came to the same thing the org is made of imperfect people thats why thiers adjustments and what i showed them means nothing one elder i told that if we tell catholics they are disobey the bible because of idols what is the differance when jw disobey bible he said jehovah would not us them because they get involved with the wild beast so i mentioned the un and the wt ngo memebership he told me to just go to the meetings and believe what i know is right ! they dont care bout truth
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  unstopableravens

  new chapter how do you feel now after two weeks ?
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  cobaltcupcake

  My DA letter was only two sentences. Honestly, I didn't care what they thought of me, and I just wanted them to leave me the heck alone.
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  unstopableravens

  yeah i understand about being left alone its like moving to a new place where you dont know anyone
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  Black Sheep

  Once you have DAd, your apostacy is official and everyone will know and everyone will want to protect themselves from you, and shunning you is not just officially sanctioned, it is a requirement.

  If you think it's bad now, think about how bad it will get when you are DA. You've read the WT's position. So have your family. If the WT says to shun DA they will shun you.

  When you talk to them, you have to always keep in mind what the WT has taught them. E.g. If the WT says not to listen, they won't listen. So get cunning. Don't tell them anything, don't express an opinion that contradicts the WT. Ask a question instead, then shut up and make them do the talking.

  Write yourself a DA letter as long as you like. Then burn it before anyone sees it. If you want some chance of getting family members out of this cult, you need them to still be talking to you. That is why the WT would rather you handed in your DA letter.
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  unstopableravens

  thanks black sheep thats why i have not wrote one until now it has been a few years and it has got around the circuit how i feel thats why i have lost friends slowly as the gossip spreads plus i have talked to my elders and its wierd but my brother has told some of my friends im apostate and some have not talk to me since ! but my bro does talk to we somewhat go figure but not about the bible. i want to go to another church but i know as soon as i do my wife is going to the elders she has told me also why its hard to fade out. im not trying to be difficult just alot of details
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  NewChapter

  new chapter how do you feel now after two weeks ?

  I'm still feeling great! I live next door to an elder, and see him often. I no longer have that tightening in my stomach----seeing him has no effect on me. I feel like I'm not looking over my shoulder, either. My friends invited me to our casino, and last time I went I had that weird feeling that I might be seen. I almost had that feeling this time, but then I thought, "Oh yeah! I sent my letter!" and the feeling went away.

  I feel absolutely---------------------------------FREE!

  But I think it is important to state that I had no family 'in' and all of my friends had already dropped me after I became inactive. Some hung in there for a while, but when it became clear to them that I had no interest in discussing spiritual things, they pretty much gave up. Other than a very few random visits and phone calls (only a small handful in the last 3 years) nothing really changes for me on that front. All the change was internal, and it's been wonderful.
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  unstopableravens

  new chapter thats awesome! i guess we each have our situation the details may be different but much is the same. and by same i mean escaping the control that the religion has on us mentally the fear of what the elders can do is powerful and i dont want it anymore . i was hoping there where more ex jw near me to meet up with but it does not seem like theres alot .