NO to your question. I was/young cajoled into wedding ordeal and I refuse to have a funeral I don't want. Reading blondie's comment above makes me sigh/discouraging! Do we ever get our way. I'm very social but go to these funerals --- one a few wks. ago and they praised the deceased (all good) and her charitable contributions to society were endless. I'm still trying to figure out how one woman could do this much charity/organization-service group work, raise 4 children and breathe. I can't figure it out but a couple of the groups were thru Catholic church other than Jr. League and few others. A couple of these groups exasperate me!
Anyway, when dining/lunch w/this individual we discussed how all the people in our lives and service orgs., etc., one really has no close friends --- a couple of others have told me same and there would be only --- maybe --- two people they'd ever care to see again in their lives once going into inactive service. Point is --- all this funeral expense and fluff going on seems stupid and big display to me. I realize it's for the family.