Worst case scenario is you actually read and learn. They throw the "Bible" at you? Read it...in context. Your romantic interest either supports you or retreats, best get to know her now. I submit any half serious novice that is willing to read can see through their nonsense.
That's how I see it. I don't intend to -become- anything. I'm simply attempting to -understand- this cult to see what she is wrapped up in. At the same time, I can feel how powerful their mind control tactics are. It's nasty, and I have to admit, if I'm not careful I find myself being manipulated. That's why I've been asking questions and reading up.
I would not join and live a lie just to be with her. That would be terrible. Still, by looking at this cult, I am learning something about her indirectly. It's annoying that we can't just get to know each other one-on-one, but I'll take what I can get at this point. Once I know enough to explain clearly why I don't accept it, at least she'll know that I cared enough to look at something that is important to her.
@Band on the Run - I wasn't suggesting anything sexual regarding the Elder but was wondering what he might be up to from a social manipulation standpoint. As for my female friend, yes she did share some personal things like how she was going through a rough time and a JW was the first person who really listened to her. She didn't know the Bible and was fascinated with their supposed "educational work" to "help" people understand the Bible. She is convinced that studying with them is equivalent to studying the Bible. To me, they lack credibility, but to her they are highly trustworthy. They've fooled her with the "new light" thing. She's been in this since 2003 and is highly indoctinated. I see all the telltale signs like rationalizing, etc. They really did a job on her & it makes me want to cry. I'm going to stick it out a little longer and see if I can explain to her intelligently my reason for walking away.