You guys offer some really good perspectives/insights on dealing with... or better yet, understanding some posters. I wish I'd read this thread before my last post to Bane. Now I feel like a d-bag. That's not the kind of person I want to be but it comes out sometime. Very good posts in this thread, though.
I'm the kind of person who tends to reflect the temperament of the other party in the conversation, whether in real life or online. If that person shows a certain amount of humility, I try to be careful to show respect and avoid being offensive, even though I may disagree with their view. But if their tone is arrogant and dogmatic, the desire to revile consumes me. I want to personally knock them off their high horse. Maybe that's my own immaturity bleeding through. And maybe that's how the other person feels about me.
But lately when I read Bane's comments, I see the face of my brother-in-law - a guy who is judgmental, hypocritical, immature, and arrogant. While I recognize that I probably acted the same way as a devout JW (and obviously still do), I would never have dropped in on an "apostate" forum and spewed messages of contempt like he does.
Also, when my brother-in-law (or any other JW) thinks he can quickly solve a puzzle (607 vs 587/6) in a couple hours that I studied/researched off and on for a few years, it really gets under my skin. He was so quick to assume I wanted a way out and, even if it meant sacrificing my family, would be willing to drop the Org over the most minor issue. So I take that personally and my frustration comes out, ready to fight.
Plus it ticks me off that he doesn't even understand the Gregorian calendar - much less Bible chronology - and yet he tells my wife after 2 minutes on Google (regarding 607 doctrine), "Oh, it's just a misunderstanding between BCE and CE, that's all." vent/off. Sorry, guys. Again, nice thread, Gladiator.