and it's even on the CD-ROM!
Family Happiness (1996) chap.8pp.90-102
Protect Your Family From Destructive Influences
HE DID NOT FEEL DEPRIVED
Christian parents Paul and his wife, Lu-Ann, organize gatherings at their home from time to time. They make sure that the gatherings are well supervised and of a manageable size. They have good reason to believe that their children benefit.
Lu-Ann relates: "The mother of a classmate of my six-year-old son, Eric, approached me to say that she felt sorry for Eric because he sat apart and didn’t join in class birthday parties. I said to her: ‘I really appreciate that you care about my son that way. It says a lot about the kind of person you are. And probably there is nothing I could say that would convince you that Eric doesn’t feel that he’s missing out.’ She agreed. So I said: ‘Then please, for your own sake, set your mind at ease and ask Eric yourself how he feels.’ When I was not around, she asked Eric, ‘Don’t you mind missing out on these nice birthday parties?’ He looked up at her, surprised, and said: ‘Do you think that ten minutes,
a few cupcakes, and a song make a party? You should come to my house and see what a real party is like!’" The boy’s innocent enthusiasm made it clear—he did not feel that he was deprived or missing out!