Blue Grass, I agree with you wholeheartedly that the action was stupid. My point is that is the stupid way in which young JWs were groomed to act. Why do you assume I was an adult at the time? Most of the Dubs I know were under 20 when they made the same stupid decision. For a Dub there are generally two deciding factors in a mate: are they a JW and am I sexually attracted to them? Yes, it's 100% stupid. That's the way this group is, and that's the way I was raised to be. We weren't allowed to date like normal people so most of us were mentally/emotionally stunted when it came to choosing a mate.
The comment, however, was true. If we had sex first, I wouldn't have married the creep. And if I wasn't in this ridiculous cult, I wouldn't have married the creep.
WTL, in answer to your question: http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/7414/1/WTS-SAYS-ELDERS-SINS-DONT-COUNT