you may change his religion, but you wont change him.
someday you will realize, and divorce cuts harder than a sword!
by Hikaru 71 Replies latest social relationships
you may change his religion, but you wont change him.
someday you will realize, and divorce cuts harder than a sword!
Hikaru, do you honestly not know why you can't date or marry a non-JW as a JW? Or do you just not want to tell them? I don't get it. Why would you so adamantly insist on something and not even know the reason why you do it? To me this is a strong indication of not being ready for a relationship anyway.
Reading through this it seems to me you are only trying to manipulate your "boyfriend" into doing what you want. Manipulation, no matter the motivation, is never a good thing in a relationship. It's a poor foundation for one, and it will only end in intense heartache. You say you are in pain over this matter now, and you haven't even met him in person! You are in trouble deep, girl. If you would just take what we are telling you seriously, you would get out now, before you exacerbate the entire thing!
He sounds very capable of thinking for himself, and he sounds like he has broken off your relationship.
Congratulations, you have guilt-tripped him into learning "The Truth," which you don't even know well enough to explain to him (the funny thing about truth is that it is straightforward and simple, you don't need a publication to explain it, it stands up for itself, so if you have to find an article or ask your grandma why something is, that could be a red flag as to its truthfulness, just a thought).
He still is saying he will be your friend no matter what. Friend. Not boyfriend. Take him at his word. Males always tell us what they think, and we females tend to morph it into what we want to hear. It's a bad habit of ours, and will never get us anywhere worthwhile, trust me.
By the way, do you wonder why you are seeking "worldly" friends in the first place? It may be for a different reason than you think. Perhaps a part of you has to be suppressed as one of Jehovah's Witnesses? Maybe it would be vital for you to spend some time exploring why you do the things you do, and who you are as a person, and let the rest take care of itself? Have you ever spent any time exploring yourself, and what makes you you?
What do you want out of life? How do you envision your life to be? One of the greatest things about being a human is our power of imagination. Why not imagine what you would like your life to look like in the next five years, and then work toward making that vision a reality?
What does Hikaru want?
What does Hikaru want? (And I don't mean her possible boyfriend to convert to her religion. Though it looks as though you may be able to nag him into studying, he is obviously capable of thought, and the Jehovah's Witness teachings are not going to appeal to him.)
I challenge you to truly learn about your religion and see if you can stand behind its teachings. How can you agree with something if you don't even know what it is!?
Genuinely,
Rachel
Internet relationships...*shakes head*...
teenage internet relationships...*shakes head even harder*
Teenage Internet relationships with religious issues !!! * shakes head even harder, head explodes*
FRREEDDOOOMMMMMM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There's nothing wrong with internet relationships, but I would suggest meeting in person before you jump into anything. I went inactive before marrying my sweety and knew him really well. I could not live a lie and pretend that I believed that all nonbelievers were evil- so I left before commiting to my now husband. You will likely face alot of challenges and repercussions from family members, ect. and it would be miserable to go through that with a stranger. Best wishes and all the best to you!! Gabriella
I had the same conflicts w/ a high school girlfriend. Jerked her around, etc. She was too smart to get dragged into the religion. I ended up breaking her heart and a few others. Frankly, I'd say quit yanking the poor guy's chain until you get your head straightened out. Doing what you are doing to him no is just plain cruel, mean and shitty. I know, I did it to a few people.
I commend you Rachel, I got frustrated with Hikaru a long time ago... She comes to an apostate website looking for confirmation that the world is coming to an end.... Psychologically, perhaps she knows it isn't, and this is the only forum who understands the doomsday mindset of a JW and can allay her fears... Hard to say.
I hope this guy will not be sucked into the black hole of the WTS... Sounds like he is capable of thinking on his own though.
Look, I understand that JW's are taught to "overcome objections". It's pounded into our heads. But what if he kept trying to overcome YOUR objections, to, say be intimate before marriage? Over and over, made it a prerequisite to a relationship, marriage, etc.? Would'nt be very nice, would it? Do you see a parallel here?
Don't you ever... EVER SLEEP WITH A NONBELIEVER.
ONE DAY. YOUR GONNA WAKE UP, SEE THE GUY NEXT TO YOU WITH HIS TATTOO OF YOUR NAME ON HIS HAIRY LEFT BUTCHEEK AND YOUR GONNA BE PRAYIN AND DOIN ALL THAT JEHOVA STUFF AND HE GUNA BE LIKE BITCH U CRAZY THEN YOUR GONNA RECONSIDER IT.
MAY YOU BE PUNISHED FOR EVEN THINKING SUCH A DEED.
HE AIN'T LIKE US. HE WIERD. HE NOT NORMAL. HE NOT THINK RIGHT.
ANYONE!!!! ANYONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD LIKE TO SPEND THEIR LIVE BEING A JEHOVA'S WITNESS, SPREADING THE WORD OF GOD TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T CARE AND MAKE FAKE BUDDIES ON AN INTERNET SITE LIKE THIS.
PRAISE JEHOVAGOD
-"GODLUVER"