recognizing that it is ME whom I have control of, NOT anyone else. Coming on to JWN has given me a "SAFE" outlet in which to STATE what I believe, and see how others may judge what I say. Immersing my self on JWN is a way of not being isolated, and yet not being exposed physically to unwanted health hazards. This allows me to benefit from the various one's hearts better, since I can take my time to analyse each response which I am interested in. Seeing how others have moved on from bitterness and other negative thoughts/ emotions is also quite helpful to remake my psyche, thus allowing me to stay analytical, while lessening me being "critical". By focusing on articulating my positions more than anything like attacking others' positions is also quite helpful in my process of making my inner self more attractive to myself, and others.
by the way, a post all/mostly in lower-case, like this post of mine, is going to get a better response THAN ONE THAT IS ALL IN CAPS. ALL-CAPS is for Government indexes and other detached announcements; it is not for general Forum use, like this Topic (a.k.a. thread) is part of.