I see your point.
I think it was a bit brutal but essentially you are saying layoff until the time is ripe for such openess.
Yes he probably handled things on a reactionary level at first which set some of this in motion too. However he is passed some of the reactionary points and has even joined another faith...... which is why we now find he and the wifey embroiled in a power struggle that occurs when the WTS decides to tell wives that their husbands are essentially not the head of household anymore spiritually. This is not what the Bible teaches.
She has apparently lost respect for him personally and within the marriage arrangement.
He will need to restore himself before she lets up too......and the only way to do that is to be active in the family and to show fruitage of the spirit that differs from what she expects. Yes he lost his wits, senses, self-control and way......but they can be restored.
JustH...... really just be kind to her, make a point to talk to her each day about something pleasant (JW or not), give her compliments, tell her you love her, clean the kitchen, offer to take the kids to the park while she is out in FS! Set aside couple time too, perhaps going on a date. I still think the kiddos should attend with you one week and her the next..... being nice doesn't mean kow-towing to her though!