My JW divorce was a soap opera. After what I thought was a happy 9 year witness marriage (my "best friend") my wife ambushes me in our home by secretly arranging her own version of a JC (her JW father and two elders) by getting them all to the house and then surprises the two elders and me by announcing (to my total surprise and shock) that I was unfaithful during one of my many business trips, which was not the case. To my dismay the elders felt that these accusations could be credible. Then, while on my next business trip, she took “my stuff” out of the house, changed the locks, filed for divorce and proceeded to slander my name and reputation throughout the community, all the while the local elders considered her “the victim” and “in good standing”. And, as this continued, I was applauded by the sheer number of JWs who believed her stories (people who knew me) and who allowed her stores to fuel their sick appetite for lurid stories of sexual escapades (including another false claim that I was gay).
Now years later I am able to look back and I realize how unprepared as Jdubs we all are for marriage (most, like me, just winged it) and how vulnerable we all are to this sort of manipulation. In my case the whole “process” of our marriage was a deliberate attempt by my “wife” to use sex, my love and my commitment to our JW marriage to con me into giving her 50% access to all the wealth I had accumulated prior to our marriage, as well as that accumulated during the marriage, which I did and which was a tens of $1,000s of $$$ and in the end I felt like a victim of emotional and sexual abuse under the protective "eye" of the WBT$ and with the support (even encouragement) by many JWs, as h ow could I ever prove that I DID NOT have sex with another woman.
Since then I have always maintained that, when it comes to marriage, the WTB$ is set up wrongly as a fear induced divorce prevention system of "governance" and not an organization that has a nurturing marriage maintenance "program" that enriches relationships by training us men to be good husbands and wives to be good wives.