your hatred will destroy you (page 16)

BreakingAway

they need an enemy???

really???

how about just trying to understand each other, and letting go....

Your statement is projecting thoughts and emotions.Think about what I really said and not in simple terms of black or white.

You know, a number of times during my life I've heard peole say: "I don't regret anything I've done because it's made me the person I am".This is significant because pretty much every person I've heard say that has been an asshole.I mean, really, you wouldn't change anything ? All of the people you've hurt throughout your life ? The better decisions you could have made ? What about the irreparable damage you've done ? You wouldn't change any of that ? There are many things I personally would like to have done differently and given another chance would most certainly have done so.If such things would have made them a better person they most certainly would feel regret.And the fact that they don't, shows they haven't really changed for the better...because it's always about THEM.Just some observations from the walk of life

Solace1998

i think you cannot make any "wrong" desicions as long as they are made in love, doing the best you could at that given time.

I have made my mistakes, but if i never made those mistakes, how would i learn just how they would affect people, or myself?

I cannot TRULY regret. Am i glad i caused someone pain in the past? no... but "it is what it is" as some would say.

If you had a chance to talk to my friends, and especially my girlfriend, even my ex, with whom some of the worst mistakes ive made -- i think you would find although not perfect, i am not an asshole. Passionate maybe. Misled sometimes, perhaps -- misunderstood, sure. But not an asshole. If you want, i can give you some numbers to call ;) but i dont think anyone except my girlfriend would like that.

All in all, right, wrong, should, shouldnt have, regret -- they are all distractions from the truth. They are NOT reality. They were used for times when things were more simplistic in our ignorance - but i think the bible has shown a progression, certainly not static, from ignorance to greater and greater enlightenment.

I wish i didnt screw up my first serious relationship... but at the same time, i did the best i could. Its a conflicting line of thought sometimes -- but i think it gives us all something to think about.

again, its all about life being a classroom...

Anti-Christ

Attacking me ? I've been around the block quite a few times so I wouldn't go that far.I used the term I meant, discredit.To cause disbelief in accuracy.In other words, "He doesn't like him so how can you accept what he says ? " Defending him ? Perhaps. You don't have to know "Solace" or anyone else to do this.It can be the defense of a concept and consequently the indivdual expressing such a concept will result in being defended.This is how former enemies become friends, when they encounter a greater enemy that unites them.

Thank you for the answer. Like I said I was not trying to discredit what you said. I was expressing an opinion in a form of a question because I was not 100% sure

Wow! you really don't like him do you?

that's all. I am using this place to learn ,express and entertain myself.

BreakingAway

i think you cannot make any "wrong" desicions as long as they are made in love, doing the best you could at that given time.

I have made my mistakes, but if i never made those mistakes, how would i learn just how they would affect people, or myself?

I cannot TRULY regret. Am i glad i caused someone pain in the past? no... but "it is what it is" as some would say.

If you had a chance to talk to my friends, and especially my girlfriend, even my ex, with whom some of the worst mistakes ive made -- i think you would find although not perfect, i am not an asshole. Passionate maybe. Misled sometimes, perhaps -- misunderstood, sure. But not an asshole. If you want, i can give you some numbers to call ;) but i dont think anyone except my girlfriend would like that.

All in all, right, wrong, should, shouldnt have, regret -- they are all distractions from the truth. They are NOT reality. They were used for times when things were more simplistic in our ignorance - but i think the bible has shown a progression, certainly not static, from ignorance to greater and greater enlightenment.

I wish i didnt screw up my first serious relationship... but at the same time, i did the best i could. Its a conflicting line of thought sometimes -- but i think it gives us all something to think about.

I was speaking in generalities.That's why you'll see my post was edited before you commented as I change "you" to "they and them", so as to avoid such a conclusion.You may have noticed that not only did I not reference you...on a number of occassions I have said "you are projecting emotions".Do you know what that means ? It means that we may feel a certain way and then when someone says something it confirms our negative conclusion.In other words, "Why are you saying that about me ? " or "I don't feel that way, why are you saying I do ? ", Etc. We will simply have to disagree when it comes to the matter of regret.My point is that the lessons we may have learned as a result of causing harm could have been learned in an alternative fashion.For instance, an extreme example might be a man who beat his wife or killed someone.While sitting in jail, as a result of his actions, he might change and be a better person.But for such a man to say he "wouldn't change a thing" is the height of arrogance and would indicate that no true positive change has taken place.Right and Wrong most certainly are a reality.And as such must be acknowledged. Again an extreme example might be a suicide bomber that kills many people because he "loves" his religion or because he "loves" God and thinks he's doing the right thing.Such actions are still wrong, regardless of how sincere.Some love a concept or ideology,such was the case with the Nazi's and such is the case with Cults like this one that never apologizes and hides behind the excuse that "we did the best we could, we now have new light".It's a lame excuse at best and arrogantly fails to acknowledge , or accept responsibilty, for the pain and suffering it causes.And that's what it's all about.Personal Responsibility.People will do nearly anything to avoid it and will make excuses as to why they didn't excercise it.I do believe that regret can be negative as well, but that does not change the fact that it plays an important role that can cause one to focus on who we are and what we came from.As well as honoring those who have been hurt by our actions.

Twitch

are you denying hatred is inherent to some extent humans?

No, some people love to hate. You said everyone has some hatred in them. I disagree

we are animals my friend.

Some more than others ;) But more to the point, we are more than animals, are we not? But I didn't know animals hate,...lol

Sure, it is not healthy to let hatred overcome you, but to deny its existence within humans is quite foolhardy. Humans are capable of so much bad -- and so much good. But we have both potentials within us, and how nice is it when the good overcomes the bad. But the bad is still there... How could you not believe that?

Who said I didn't. I just disagreed with your generalization that everyone has some hatred in them.

My age has absolutely nothing to do with it.

Age often correlates with maturity but not always. Your blanket statements about the people here is a sign of either immaturity or ignorance IMO.

So, you dont hate it when you see governments burning food to keep prices high when people are starving in darfur?

wow, what a cold bastard you must be.

No I don't hate it. I don't like it but that's not the same thing. And it's not the only thing I don't like about the things in this world. But I don't hate as you suggest and that doesn't make me a cold bastard. Nice try though.

What jgnat, daniel-p and BreakingAway said.

For the record, Solace, nothing personal against you but if you've the courage to stick your neck out, prepare for the consequences and don't cry foul when called out on the carpet. It's all give and take on the playground,.....

Solace1998

youll notice you are talking about extreme situations, when i think it was pretty obvious we werent.

it goes to show you that truths and beliefs do not HAVE to be absolute, cold rules.

Twitch

youll notice you are talking about extreme situations, when i think it was pretty obvious we werent.

it goes to show you that truths and beliefs do not HAVE to be absolute, cold rules.

lol, ok

truths and beliefs are never absolute, IMO

OUTLAW

LOL!!..If something is not the absolute truth,it`s not the truth....... Laughing Mutley ...OUTLAW

SuperApostateGirl

Just type in Red,they like that!

Giggle,Giggle

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