I just thought this should be bttt...
Online Imposters: How Would You Identify Them?
by Scully 102 Replies latest members adult
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eclipse
Wow....I feel so dumb if this is true...
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Uzzah
tender hearts one and all.
Better to have the capacity to care and love and be hurt on occasion than to be incapable of tenderheartedness.
{{{{{{{{{{To all that care so deeply}}}}}}}}}
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nvrgnbk
Better to have the capacity to care and love and be hurt on occasion than to be incapable of tenderheartedness.
Nicely put, Uzzah.
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eclipse
I agree, better to have shown compassion and been caring than cynical or skeptical...
so one lonely person got some well wishes, it's shitty for us...
but at least we cared...
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sweetface2233
For this very reason is why you'll never see me welcoming a "newbie". If they are legit, they'll stick around and I'll get to know them. However, in light of a recent thread (funeral arrangements), I don't know what to believe, anymore. I guess I need to view posters like I view God; if I can hear them, see them, and touch them they are real, if I can't, then they aren't.
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eclipse
I refuse to be that cynical
I would rather show someone I cared, and be made a fool of
than be a skeptic,and mistrusting
but that's just me
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sweetface2233
I understand that, clipsy, I really do. I have gotten close to a poster here who is very ill and I have been very upset about it all week. I am going to spend tomorrow evening w/ her and have a nice little slumber party of our own. When she first started posting, I didn't pay attention to her, then one day (her 100th post) I had to comment and she turned out to be an amazing person. But, I have also had run-ins w/ people that I have met on the Internet who were complete liars and, for lack of a better word, rapists. Not everything typed out in a profile, an email, or an IM conversation completely true. Shoot, not everything said in person is completely true, either. I guess when you have been screwed over as many times as I have, you get tired of putting the pieces of your heart back together.
Edited to add: My self esteem got lower everytime I got jerked around. (And this goes for "in-person" contacts, as well) I am the one that has to deal w/ the thoughts and feelings going through my mind, not anyone else. When I am too trusting, I feel hurt and stupid. I don't want to feel stupid. I want to love myself. If putting up a wall of protection helps me to NOT feel hurt and stupid, then I am doing it.
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John Doe
I get tired of being fooled. I've become much more cynical over time.
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Jourles
Am I for real? Nah. Even when [I] talked to Scully on the phone that one time, it wasn't really me. It was a computer generated voice program. And all those pics that I appeared in from apostafests and meetups? Photoshopped. They never happened.
Hell, I believe I thought at one time that Minimus *could* have been a jw on a mission trying to gather personal info on faders that visited this board. He was one of those "guys" that no one from the board really knew in person(hell, even now I can only think of one or two people who have said they've met the guy). Most long term posters here eventually post a pic of themselves or make it to a 'fest or a meetup. And others may have common acquaintances thereby virtually eliminating any mischance of being an imposter.
I'm cautious by nature and never give "newbies" the benefit of the doubt right off the bat. It takes a little time for me to see how they will develop. I'm still waiting to read a newbies story - one where I recognize the person as someone I knew/know. Only then will I take them for their word immediately. As I was just typing this, I recalled finding an old friend from years ago. I managed to get her to come on here and post. She hasn't posted anything in a year(some of us have lives!), but if she ever comes back on, I will have her back and defend her to the death. She is real and was part of my life growing up. I wish I could say the same for many others here on the board.(that didn't come out sounding right) What I mean is, for everyone here that I know personally, I've got your back too. That's why it's been a personal goal of mine over the years to meet as many of you fine folks that I can.