I understand you're White with a Black wife, right? How does SHE feel about this? Whenever a White person insults ONE Black person, he insults ALL Black people. When will you guys get it?
My wife doesn't care one way or the other. We only get offended if people verbally accost us personally. The way we see it, "we" are not "them". I don't really consider myself as belonging to any particular group, and neither does my wife, so we don't really get angry when somebody insults a skin color. We are just people. We belong to the human race. To us, it is obvious that someone who insults another person just because of skin color is an idiot. We rarely consult the opinions of idiots. People like my wife and myself judge people on an individual basis. It does not even occur to us to judge people simply on basis of race.
That being said, there are many people that DO judge people on basis of race. I know they are out there. I have met people of all races that hate people of other races, religions or nationalities. Sometimes, it is easy to let those people's thoughts and attitutes bother you. You and I both wish those people weren't around, and we'd rather not be exposed to the crap that spews out of their mouths. But, I have reached the realization that those people are out there, and they will always be there. We chose not to listen to them, because we know that the things that they say aren't true and don't apply to us. So, that's why I said that just as long as they don't attack me or my family personally, I'm not worried about it. Let them talk. It's a useful tool, when you think about it. If some idiot is spouting racist crap, that's a pretty good indicator of whether or not they're a racist. Stay away from those people. Simple enough. Come to my house instead. We'll grill some steaks, have a beer and enjoy ourselves.