OMG...OMG...OMG... I am sitting here and about to be ill. I see myself and my life a good 18 years ago. Please if anything gets through to you. Take that new wife of yours and run. Hold her, love her, and love that new baby that is coming. Forget the appeals and screw the opinion they have of you. Forget the months of making you wait on an answer or the endless hours of wondering why or if you are good enough and even if they get back to you now...don't accept it. Fact is they are not good enough for you.
The love they offer is conditional. That is not love. Listen to what you are saying. You have paid the price. You have screwed up. You have righted what you can, now it is time to move on. Your ex wife is trying to and sad to say, she seems to be taking the wiser path and leaving the JW's behind. From your viewpoint right now it may seem to you that her life may be messed up, and it may be a little. But at this point, her mind may be healing a lot more than yours. because from the little you described, she might just be letting the mind control lose some of the hold it has over her.
You on the other hand need to seriously look at what you are asking. A Divorce?? Come on now? Do you love your new wife and child? Then it needs to have NOTHING to do with a bunch of old fucktards sitting in judgement over you that are not in your household. Sure they seem to have power over you because they keep you and her from associating with family right now, but truly, they seem to be doing you a favor. Who wants to be with someone who only calls when they need your help.
I sound harsh right now, but hon, it is from 3 times sitting in your shoes and loosing loved ones because I had that same mindset you hold right now.
Please hang in there...but not with this wacked religion. Hang in there with your wife. Your child. You and her did all this and let it go. Start loving each other fresh NOW. Love each other for each other and without a second thought of the old WTBTS. You are kicked out...take it as the best gift you ever got and go do things with her.
All the things you ever wanted. Think on it. ALL you ever wanted is in front of you and they can't and won't stop you. Don't look back. Don't go back...run, don't walk...RUN.
If you can, try going with your wife to a counselor.. Not because there is anything wrong with you, but just give it a try. So that someone can help you perhaps open your eyes to see how twisted that religion has your head. This time should be so happy for you. A new wife, a new baby...The world in front of you! You are young! Not a time to be sitting and hurting and wondering what is wrong with you and stressing about how long you are going to have to wait on these people.. PEOPLE to respond. They have your head in the wrong place...
Oh I wish you so much love.
Read what sparky said again..This is exactly right!!!!! This is YOUR life...This is YOUR wife...this is YOUR child. this is YOUR family. Don't let anyone take control don't let others do it for you. Find a support team and ask for help. *hint you will NOT find them in a kingdom hall* Much love to you and your family. lisa