My Andy was in a bad car accident~

by FlyingHighNow 471 Replies latest members private

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Thank you, Sassy, Sunspot and Unique.

    Hi everyone, don't know how long I'll last here typing, still too nervous to sit for long and post. And there's a thunder storm and Julian is worried I'll be struck.

    Bebu, the 17' truck will be $634 and the car tow trailer, all four wheels off the ground because the car sits so low, will be $210. Then there is gasoline for a 600 plus around town miles trip. Penske says there are no rental taxes leaving Michigan, but I can't get U-Haul to acknowledge this. They gave me a number to call here to find out. I am relieved not to have to drive my car that far. The power steering sounds horrible. It's sure an attention getter.

    I finally called today about Mickey. I wish I could have better news. It turns out that he was removed from the foster home where he's been for almost two months, the one on the farm, over the weekend and there is an investigation going on. One of the children, I don't know how old, Mickey says did something to him. His caseworker said it was traumatic for him and he didn't understand why he could not come back to Nanna. His father is petitioning for them to return Mickey to him and there is a good chance it could happen. He has been having regular visits with his dad since going back to CT. I hope they know what they are doing. His dad didn't merely spank him, he savagely beat him including fists to the stomach and kicks. Dad is also going to try to make it hard for Carrie to see Mickey, trying to take her rights away.

    I could tell that the caseworker was relieved that Andy is back home and that I am moving to a more stable situation. I asked her if things didn't work out for the parents to have Mickey if he would be put up for adoption. She said family would be considered first. I then asked if I had any chances of Mickey coming to stay with me again and she did not say no. She said my more stable situation could have a bearing on matters.

    I cried some this evening for Mickey. I pray that he will be safe. At least he spoke up for himself and made sure they took him somewhere more safe. It's upsetting because we all really felt good about Mickey being at the farm.

    I went and got some more books on audio from the library. I think Julian and I will have some warm milk, I bought Nestle's to mix in his, listen to one of the boa's and get to bed. Tomorrow I start packing. I am going to work a long day on Friday and Saturday because I desperately need the money. I am on the schedule for Sunday, but I'll not work because it's a new week and five hours would only pay union dues and a health insurance premium that will do me no good. So Saturday will be my last day.

    Now I hope my anxiety won't interfere with my energy levels during this preparation to move. Please pray for us in this regard. I am nervous as heck, my therapist says I have every reason to be, she calls it high anxiety.

  • Rabbit
    Rabbit

    Wow ! A lot of changes going on for ya', I've been gone for a few days w/no internet access. Tennessee is a beautiful place and I have a good 'worldly' sister who lives there, too.

    This move sounds good and it looks like it may put you in a better situation, if it comes to adoption.

    Good for you all !

    Rabbit

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Thanks, Rabbit, What part of Tennessee? I tried to call you a couple of days ago, by the way. How are you and your wife? Andy's app has already been turned down. His attorney for the hospital is going to handle his appeal. I think he's going to appeal it anyway.

    The Hamster escape yet again. He lived in the bathtub until I could come up with a solution. He's a real crafty little stinker. Hugs.

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    wow.. I am so sorry to hear about what transpired for Micky..

  • Apostate Kate2
    Apostate Kate2

    I just found this thread yesterday and have been reading to catch up. I took a break from the forum and had no idea what a tough time you have been having. So sorry you are going through such trauma and heartache. My heart aches for you, Andy, the children.

    We are close in age, I can't imagine how trying it is for you raising your precious grandbabies and fight the system. I had to do the same thing with my grandson when he was 7 months. It was a battle, with the father, with my health, with the system, and with not enough money. My story had a happy ending, I'll be praying the same for you, your daughter, and the children.

    You will all be in my prayers. May God bless your journeys, protect Mickey and bring him back to you. Father in Jesus name may no harm come to Mickey, surround him with angels Lord. Protect out friend and light her path.

    Love~Kate

  • juni
    juni

    (((Heather)))

    I just got caught up w/the latest in your life. Sounds like a wise decision to move to TN where you'll have family support. Also, you'll have the opportunity to further your education which is so important for you financially.

    Take care of yourself. I send my love.

    Juni~~

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Sassy, Kate and Juni, hi.Thank you for your prayers, Kate. We most definitely need them as much as ever.

    I just got home. Worked an extremely busy, almost 9 hour day. My boss not only had me on the schedule for the coming week already, he talked me into working an additional day on Thursday. I need the money, so I relented. It will cut my days this coming week and the following week, to pack and prepare to move, back to three each. I will work tomorrow, Sunday and then Thursday thru Saturday. We did start packing yesterday. Andy helped for a bit with dvd's, videos and records. Then he became overwhelmed with sadness and had to keep to himself the rest of the day. I called him from work and he sounded better today.

    I got a big packet of information on foster care in the mail today. I suppose I need to let them know I am moving.

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    I am about to head out for the baby sitter's and then to work. I had to say that I got up to go powder my nose during the night and found that mini varmint in the bathtub! Julian had a box of his toys next to the bathtub, I guess he climbed and jumped in. After trying to escape the tub the entire duration of last weekend. His new little carrier, he managed to break the door on top. So now the carrier sits in the bath with heavy shampoo bottles on top. Anyone have some suggestions? Julian says we should make a duct tape hinge for the door on top, where it's broken.

    See all of you wonderful JWD folks later.

    Claude, can you PM me?

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Things are progressing with my decision to move. I have notified the landlord. She already has a sign up. I have notified the boss and my last day working is Saturday. I went to see my doctor today and got my last Rx's written and samples of lipitor, etc. There was an announcement in the Sunday Bulletin at church about us needing help packing and loading, etc.

    I've gotten hugs and sad faces and good lucks at work. People like me at work. I guess not being a JW can make us more likeable. We don't feel the need to save everyone. People at church were misty eyed when they spoke with us at coffee hour. Mother Val is coming to take Julian out on Wednesday night. I hope he can get to visit with his Godmothers as well. We still have tons to do here to get packed and ready. Andy and Katy and her children are coming to help some tomorrow. Andy usually can't do much before he gives out. He's definitely suffering from depression. I need to contact my driver, Marty. He and his sweet little wife have offered to come help us, too. They are high school sweethearts who married are still very happy even after all the kids have left home. He is probably 6'7" and she is 5'.

    Andy tells me not to worry or be skiddish. He says, "Heather, you're not getting on the train to Auswich." He's right and try to tell myself this when I feel faint of heart. When I have been down on myself in the past, he always says, "Heather, it's not like you're Hitler or Stalin." He has a way of getting things right back in perspective for me.

    Don't know what to do about Ricky Bobby. He's still got the shampoo bottles on his cage. I'll have to put him back in the critter trail and duct tape the caps he can take off, for the trip at least. Maybe I should super glue them and then duct tape them. Anyone got any suggestions?

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    not sure what to do about the cage.. but just wanted to put a note in and say I am thinking of you... I know this is a big decision for you and even if it is the right one, still scarey. I remember when I moved out to California how it was. Changes can be good though... I'm wishing you well..

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