WALL OF LOVE. Poem by DFed sibling of many, many years. Kleenex worthy.

by Open mind 83 Replies latest members private

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  OnTheWayOut

  Until you have found the way to do what you plan at home, get much strength from your brother.
  Tell him everything you can. Let him be an ally. You could even use him as a reason to
  step aside (as far as wife is concerned- don't use him with the elder body- too easy to recommend
  a DF).

  I was a bit heavy, but it might get through better. You watch R rated movies with the daughter and
  mention Karate? Good for you. Be sure to encourage lots of education. Perhaps ask the kids
  if shunning their uncle is the right thing to do. What would they do in YOUR situation? If you did
  contact their uncle, what would MOM say? Should we keep it a secret? Just some stray thoughts.
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  bluebell

  I loved the poem
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  penny2

  That's an amazing poem, Open mind.

  I took many years to fade (didn't know in the beginning what I was doing). I can understand your situation. I do agree with OTWO though, that for your own mental sanity, you should try and get out of the eldership asap!!! That will be a weight off your shoulders and you will come under less scrutiny.

  will be having a face-to-face reunion very soon

  That will be wonderful. Judging by the poem, I think your brother has come to a good understanding of the psychology of family relationships as they relate to disfellowshipping. Hopefully the two of you have many years of love and companionship ahead of you.

  penny2
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  Open mind

  OTWO said:
  
  "Perhaps ask the kids if shunning their uncle is the right thing to do. What would they do in YOUR situation?"
  
  Thanks OTWO. I'm laying the groundwork for this line of reasoning. I've discussed with each of them why they need to hold off on baptism. In those discussions I've mentioned to each of them that there's no way I will ever shun them no matter what happens. And each of them seemed very comforted by those words. I'll revisit that idea at a future date and expand it to my situation with my brother and see how they respond.
  
  Penny2:
  
  Thank you for your kind words of concern.
  
  
  For others who are just now popping in, please give us your $.02 on the poem. I hate to see a good piece of writing quickly swallowed up in the bowels of JWD.
  
  Thanks,
  
  Open Mind
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  Tuesday

  I thought it was a good poem. The repetition of "seven years ago" seemed to fit really nicely. Isn't it funny how poetry can say some things that prose could never do? The imagery is really clear as well, I could picture everything he was describing there, and the wall metaphor does work very well.
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  nvrgnbk

  Very moving Open Mind!

  My love to you and your brother.
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  Open mind

  bttt

  Just gonna do this once and then let it go.
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  Confession

  Prose has not shown itself to be very popular here at JWD, but with some of us it is.

  I am absolutely in love with this one; thanks so much for pointing it out for me. Incredibly well done.
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  Doubting Bro

  OM,

  As one who had a df'ed sibling (who I actually didn't shun which suprising since I was such a hard core JW - super elder type of jackass. I guess I also had a double standard!), I was deeply moved by the poem.

  I guess until you've walked in those shoes, you probably can't understand. Your brother knows you're in a cult and that deep down your family doesn't really mean to do what they do. I find that to be incredibly forgiving and Christian. I'm sure that the conclusion gave him some peace.

  Congrats on reestablishing your relationship. Life is too short to shun.
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  Madame Quixote

  Every time I read the phrase again, "seven years ago," I thought to myself that (the disowning and disfellowshipping mentality) started before the actual d'f'ing - long before "seven years ago.

  It started with the first love-bombing and the first bible study. The wall was being prepared, (its foundation, I suppose), way before the announcement of d'f'ing. It's foundation was laid at every meeting, every study, in every songbook, every Kingdom Ministry, in every innocuous JW conversation and critique of "worldly ways."

  The wall was built before the disfellowshipping gate was closed.