Living Alone - Love it or Loathe it?

by Crumpet 59 Replies latest jw experiences

  • looking_glass
    looking_glass

    I always thought this was such a great song, very fitting for those of us who enjoy the company (but only to a certain extent)

    PINK LYRICS "Leave Me Alone (I'm Lonely)"

    Go away
    Give me a chance to miss you
    Say goodbye
    It'll make me want to kiss you
    I love you so
    Much more when you're not here
    Watchin all the bad shows
    Drinking all of my beer

    I don't believe Adam and Eve
    Spent every goddamn day together
    If you give me some room there will be room enough for two

    Tonight
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely
    I'm tired
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely tonight

    I don't wanna wake up with another
    But I don't wanna always wake up with you either
    No you can't hop into my shower
    All I ask for is one ***kin' hour
    You taste so sweet
    But I can't eat the same thing every day
    Cuttin off the phone
    Leave me the ***k alone
    Tomorrow I'll be beggin' you to come home

    Tonight
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely
    I'm tired
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely tonight

    Go away
    Come back
    Go away
    Come back
    Why can't I just have it both ways
    Go away
    Come back
    Go away
    Come back
    I wish you knew the difference
    Go away
    Come back

    Go away
    Give me a chance to miss you
    Say goodbye
    It'll make me want to kiss you
    Go away
    Give me a chance to miss you
    Say goodbye
    It'll make me want to kiss you
    Go away
    Give me a chance to miss you
    Say goodbye
    It'll make me want to kiss you

    Tonight
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely
    I'm tired
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely tonight

    Tonight
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely
    I'm tired
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely tonight

    Tonight
    Go away
    Give me a chance to miss you
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely
    Say goodbye
    It'll make me want to kiss you
    I'm tired
    Go away
    Give me a chance to miss you
    Leave me alone I'm lonely
    Alone I'm lonely
    Say goodbye
    It'll make me want to kiss you
    Tonight
    Go away
    Give me a chance to miss you
    Say goodbye
    It'll make me want to kiss you

  • FreeChick
    FreeChick

    I grew up an only child in a family which was less than ideal. It was very, very lonely. I have an amazing extended family, hundreds of members, who I love dearly. Only problem is, I'm the only one DFd, so again very lonely for the last 17 years. I'm very comfortable being alone and won't sit around at home waiting for someone to travel with, etc.

    I've had great roommates over the years and currently live in a roommate situation with a gal who is 25. I don't have much in common with her since she is so young, but it's nice to hear someone else in the house. We have a housekeeper to keep everything tidy so no arguments over who did or didn't make a mess. I have guests over whenever or meet them in town. There are so many outdoor activities to do in my town, it's easy to be gone all day so I can go for days without seeing her. And, even better, I save over $1500 every month in housing expenses, which means more travelling!

    I guess it's a case of the grass is always greener on the other side. I would love to have the significant other, kids, the kids' friends, the dog and cat running around making noise. As long as I can keep my wonderful housekeeper.

    FreeChick

  • jayhawk1
    jayhawk1

    I lived alone from age 19 to 26 and toward the end, I hated living alone. I hope I never live alone again. I feel complete now, whereas before, it always felt like something was missing.

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    I think this thread demonstrates that not all ex Jws are the same or have the same desires. Some of us absolutely relish the living alone experience and others find it lonely or as if it is incomplete as Jayhawk and Greendawn have described. I think conflict tends to arise when you get partners who want different things in terms of company!

    Looking glass those lyrics get it absolutely right - is that off her most recent album?

    Stealth - i think you have the best of both worlds for sure!! although you must really really miss your kids - can you talk to them regularly on the phone or by video conference?

    Freechick - wow I would love to have a housekeeper - a house big enough for a housekeeper would be a start though! I hope in your travels you do meet someone special though!

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    Yeah living alone does make the place feel cold and empty but then as long as someone does have a social life and doesn't live like a hermit I suppose it's OK. It's a matter of temperament.

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet
    Yeah living alone does make the place feel cold and empty but then as long as someone does have a social life and doesn't live like a hermit I suppose it's OK. It's a matter of temperament

    Thats very true greendawn. I don't tend to socialise very much at all. Once every couple of months or so I will meet up with friends but thats about it. i just have a very low people threshold i think. Having said that now that I am living alone maybe I will want to go out more - it hasn;t happened yet - I still dread parties and so on and spend the whoel build up to them planning my excuses to leave early - and what happens - I'm usually the last to leave!

  • looking_glass
    looking_glass

    Crum - yes it is off her latest. There are a number of songs I there I can identify w/. My fav line in the whole song is

    No you can't hop into my shower
    All I ask for is one ***kin' hour
    You taste so sweet
    But I can't eat the same thing every day
    Cuttin off the phone
    Leave me the ***k alone
    Tomorrow I'll be beggin' you to come home

    I have said the first two lines before. Jesus f'ing Christ let me at least take a shower alone.

    And I agree a lot of loneliness has to do w/ how you feel about yourself and if you enjoy your own company. I enjoy hanging out w/ friends but there are times when I feel that my social life is out of control and I have to start saying no to people because I need my time alone. To me there is nothing better then sitting in a quiet room w/ soft music playing and me reading a really good book. Yummy. That is one of my ideal days.

    We are all different, thank goodness for that otherwise the world would be filled with people just like me and heaven help us all if that were the case! I would even hate that!

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet
    To me there is nothing better then sitting in a quiet room w/ soft music playing and me reading a really good book. Yummy. That is one of my ideal days.

    Totally agree with you there - it makes me feel guilty if I want to read but I have guests and then its just not as enjoyable. I also love watching japanese and korean horror movies while I do my tapestry work - but I dont know anyone else who would particularly enjoy that. Or playing role playing games on the x box for hours and hours - other people would be bored of watching and I'd feel guilty hoggiong the controller. Or watching porn - actually scrub that - I can think of quite a few people who' happily share that pursuit with me! hehe!

    Or just easting marmite on toast and drinking tea all day in my pajamas when I can't be bothered to make the effort - all things best done alone.

    What about outings - do you prefer going shopping, galleries, museums etc with other people?

  • clarity
    clarity

    bump

  • Ucantnome
    Ucantnome

    i lived alone in a house empty except for me and half of the rooms were locked i only had a few rooms in the front it was in the country with no phone and before mobile phones and it was cold you could see your breath i didn't much care for it. within a year i moved.

    it could have been different. i had a girlfriend ( she had worked as a lingerie model) that wasn't a witness and i had stopped seeing her and moved away she wanted to come and live with me. i could have been so much warmer. lol.

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