A JW with an impossible question

by jgnat 79 Replies latest members private

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  Elsewhere

  I think his attraction to field service has a lot to do with a yearning to be accepted as "one of the boys". He's the youngest son of a half-dozen boys and three girls. Growing up, he was left to wander about the farmhouse and field in his nappy while his brothers tilled the fields. I am sure he did his best to tag along, but his brothers were busy with their own affairs, as big brothers will do.

  So field service on his own wouldn't satisfy

  Then let him know that his desire to "Serve Jehover" is not without ulterior motives. He is interested in socializing, not serving his gawd.
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  purplesofa

  This is what I really want to say.

  No matter what I did or did not do, I just did not fit in to their line of thinking and reasoning. It's very hard to come away from being DF or publicly repooved without scarring. If others don't do it to you, you do it to yourself.

  In some ways your husbands WT experiance reminds me of an elder I know that was deleted. The night they deleted him he closed the meeting with prayer. His deletion was due to the fact that he stood apart from the rest of the elders not that he really had done anything wrong.

  Your husbands discipline for pre-marital sex has already been established. Since he really has done nothing scriptually wrong since then, (just rubbing elders the wrong way) they cannot DF him. But they can make life hell for him. Most people I know grow weary from this treatment and eventually leave.

  It's like sexual harrassment but it is spiritual.

  purps

  I was under the impression too, that if you married out of the truth, you could never have a priveledge of being a MS or above......is this true?
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  jgnat

  I was under the impression too, that if you married out of the truth, you could never have a priveledge of being a MS or above......is this true?

  I think one of the brothers asked him about this once. He told the brother his highest ambition is to be accepted out in to field service, possibly becoming a poineer one day. If he were to reach that goal, he would be satisifed.

  So of course, to properly punish my husband for his independence, the elders must deny him the one thing he desires most.
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  purplesofa

  So of course, to properly punish my husband for his independence, the elders must deny him the one thing he desires most.

  Well, there you have it.

  I would point blank as how long he will be restricted from field service. I mean even murderers, rapists, robbers know how much time they will have to do.

  And if they can't give a difinitive answer ask who is going to decide, and based on what stipulations?

  purps
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  jgnat

  Then let him know that his desire to "Serve Jehover" is not without ulterior motives.

  I find most JW's are driven by ulterior motives. They want to see their loved ones after death. They want to avoid death themselves. Or the twelve-step acceptance program promised by the Jehovah's Witnesses is a big draw for the socially challenged.

  Even if their initial interest was for a deeper understanding of God, the endless rules and warnings (carrots) pull the Jehovah's Witness along an endless treadmill.
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  garybuss

  I thought Witnesses were under a command to preach, not under a privilege to preach. Meetings might be a privilege, but not preaching.
  
  
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  Dansk

  He is not allowed out in field service.

  Stuffy beggar!

  Ian
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  purplesofa

  I thought Witnesses were under a command to preach, not under a privilege to preach. Meetings might be a privilege, but not preaching.
  

  Even when you are disfellowshipped they cannot keep your from preaching. Preaching with the rest of the congo, yes, but not on your own.

  purps
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  johnny cip

  jgnat; i can't figure this out . you spend years here , learning and posting. about how you hate the wt. now that . the local jw's , answer your wishes, and treat your spouse like shit. opening the door for you to tell hubby. over and over . i told you so . they are noting but a bunch of controling bastards/ i would never let him live it down. tell your hubby to try , volinteer at the local soup kitchen ,hospital, red cross, salvation army. etc. were he can help someone in need. ask him why he want to go into fs. to find more ppl that the jw's can shit on like they are doing to him. misery loves company. lets hope they piss him off so much he sees the light. john
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  Finally-Free

  Didn't the watchtower fight many court battles to ensure their right to freedom of religion, and the right to preach? How can they, in turn, prohibit someone from exercising that right?

  They may be able to withhold watchtower literature from him, but they can't prevent him from preaching, if that's what he really wants to do. His right to do so is protected by law.

  W