Lying about going to meetings...what are your thoughts?

by stillAwitness 28 Replies latest jw experiences

  • lola28

    It seems like lying has never been a problem for you, you've lied to your parents about bigger things so why are you now worried about it now?


  • Wasanelder Once
    Wasanelder Once

    In the Truth or out, lying is bad ju ju.

    Speak the truth each one with his neighbor.

    Be brave.


  • minimus

    Lola is correct but we all know nothing's for real here, anyway.

  • DannyBloem


    I do not think that lying is wrong in all circumstances. Like like to the elders about something that is not of their bussiness anyway.

    Lying to your mum, is not a good thing, imho. Not that you have to tell her everything, but that is something completely different.
    better tell here you are very busy, with your job etc. She would probably get the message anyway, but you can not make here believe you are a good witness that does everything, and never go to a meeting. That just will not work.

  • sspo

    You will get deeper and deeper into lying that eventually you cannot keep track what you said last time.

    How long can you really fool your mother?

    Just go to a few meetings at your new congr. and start to slowly fade away.

  • stillAwitness

    Yes, I live with my bf but of course my folks do not know that. They think I just have a roomate. As far as lying about meetings perhaps you guys are right but what is sad is the fact that I have not seen my parents since I moved out and have only talked to my dad once. I think they know I just need to sort of be by myself right now. It sure did feel good to pay the rent this month! I'm beggining to like the real world!!

  • sass_my_frass

    It's going to catch up with you sometime, so you should work out a way to be honest with your mother.

  • Gill

    In the nicest possible way, Still, Grow Up!

    What are you taking money from your parents for?

    I left home at 19, we had a mortgage, and when we couldn't afford to eat, we lived on toast. WE DID NOT ask our parents for money.

    If you don't want to go to the meetings then don't. You do not need to answer to anyone. The only reason you feel you need to do as your mother says is that you want her to bail you out financially. Get another job. You've got no kids or responsibilities. Extra work will not hurt you.

    You're an adult now. Stand on your own two feet and be accountable to no one but yourself.

    You're a big girl now, out in the big wide world. You can do it. Cut the cord, and the apron strings and move on.

    Only then, no matter what you decide to do, will you have your parents respect!

    Go for it!

  • Dansk

    There are some here who would say that the JWs lied to us so there should be no problem lying to them - but I disagree. I abhor lies and we're better than the JWs!

    Besides - and please take good heed - once you lie about one thing (as you already have, i.e. you live with your bf) it will be difficult for anyone to take you seriously. As has been pointed out, you're a big girl now so cease the lies and tell your mom and anyone who asks the truth! If they can't handle it that's their problem - but at least you would get a reputation for honesty. That's priceless!


  • mrsjones5

    I agree with those who said don't lie. I know it's hard and I know that the reaction you get back could be bad but it's really not a good idea to lie about it.

    I didn't lie to my parents about what I thought about the org and I didn't (and won't) give them false hope about it either by telling them I still attend meetings. They're not happy about it and will never be happy about it but I can let that rule my life.


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