Disfellowshipped and lonely

by ryry 53 Replies latest jw friends

  • ferret

    welcome ryry I have been df'd for over 25 years and have 3 daughters that still shun me. But I have made many friends to replace them. Shunning is not our problem it is theirs. Keep posting and reading on this board. You will have yours eyes opened and meet a lot of nice people here.

  • collegegirl21

    Welcome to the board. I am 21 and I feel the same way you do sometimes. If you ever need someone to talk to we are all here for you! :) I hope you find what you're looking for!

  • towanda

    Hey ryry_

    Welcome, so glad to have you. Everyone else has said it best...spend some time here, it's very cathartic!

    What has helped me deal with being a "leper" is to jump into, with both feet, things that I never would have been able to do as a dub. And no, I'm not talking about becoming a crack whore or serial killer (though isn't that what many believe will happen to you if you abandon the borg ). There is a bunch of us here who are going to college. At our age, there is no better time spent, investing in ourselves! Also, reconnecting with old friends from school or workmates that you lost touch with, because they were so-called unacceptable associates. Some of those folks (after graciously accepting my apology for not staying in touch) have become true and wonderful friends.

    Listen and learn to the old souls on this board, inluding Auld Soul, Blondie, Willylohman, and all the other wonderful spiritual giants who offer us newbies great support! Best of Luck to you!

  • Dismembered

    Greetings ryry

    Welcome to the board. Sorry to hear you are sad and lonely. Just remember, as heinous as disfellowshipping is, remember your family is only doing what they believe to be part of their “true worship” which is inexcusable.
    Take comfort in the fact that many here have, and continue to go through the same situations. Watchtower is an evil cult that through its sick, brain-washing teachings, have hurt many under the guise of love.

    You need to try to stay focused on yourself, and time will heal you. Come here often and read about the opinions and experiences of many who have spent entire life-times in that devilish cult. It will help you understand too, that you’re not alone. Hope this place helps you feel better


  • inbyathread

    Welcome. Ask your questions and begin your new life.

  • codeblue


    So sorry to hear about the shunning, it is very hurtful. I am fading, still in good standing but one of my siblings hung the phone up on me 2 years ago, have not heard from them since. I know the pain it has caused me as well.

    Being that you are 22....do what some of the other posters suggested: Get a career, get a hobby, get a social circle of REAL friends. I know that takes effort, but there are many kind Non-JW's out there.

    Keep posting here as well...this board will be therapy in itself. It might be good to find a licensed therapist who specializes in exiting cults to assist you in your progress for your new life.

    Take care


  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    WELCOME RYRY, You have found the right place . Be excited for yourself , you have exited an unhealthy mind control group at a young age. There is so much out there to reach out for start planning a real life in the here and now. Tell us more about your story we're listening . Hang in there you can do it.

  • greendawn

    Welcome to the forum ryry, as so many posters wrote above there is a life that begins after the JWs that is far more natural and satisfying than the JW life and you are young and have most of your life ahead of you. Unfortunately other JWs came out in their 40's and 50's and lost a lot more time to the cult.

  • SickofLies


    You've taken the first step to recovery!

  • evita

    I have nothing to add to the great advice given except keep on posting and reading on this board. It has helped tremendously and given me some perspective on my own situation. Also, to know that there are others out there who understand is a great relief.

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