The fear of "spontaneous sex"

by free2beme 41 Replies latest jw friends

  • free2beme
    free2beme

    When I was young and single and a Witness. I remember often the fear older people had of putting young people together alone. Not just for dating, but even leaving them in a car while an older couple went to a return visit. I always found it funny and another sister, I knew, always referred to what they feared as "spontaneous sex." In that they feared our hormones were so out of control, which is what the Watchtower said, that they thought the simple act of sitting and waiting for a couple to return from a return visit, would find us doing the nasty on the Watchtowers in the backseat. I remember one time, I was actually asked to work a few doors alone, as they did not want us left alone in the car to cause problems. I only wish sex was that easy to happen as a teen, as it was actually a lot more work to convince someone into it at that age in with that much brainwashing, then they feared. It was just so extreme, there fear of this and their over protection of young teens in such odd circumstances.

    Did anyone else notice this?

  • prophecor
    prophecor

    Getting rides to the KH was blip, sometimes. I was not allowed to sit next to the precious daughter of the brother who was studying with me. I of course was even more unworthy as I was only an un-baptised " interested person ". I hated with a passion the PC talk and terminology that was ever present within the administration.

  • SPAZnik
    SPAZnik

    spontaneous copulation?
    hey, that happenz to me all the time, whut can i say.

    is it just me or is it kinda gross that all the older ones spent so much time fantasizing about what the young ones are or would be doing if left behind closed doors for two minutes. doesn't it say more about the minds of those accusing than the reality of those they were supposedly trying to protect.

    on the other hand, when it comes to unplanned pregnancy and std's, there are times when I even think no measure is too vigilant. lol.

  • stillAwitness
    stillAwitness

    So true Free! I rememeber as a little girl the oler sisters who were dating at the time would always invite me out of '"icecream" Turns out they were just using me as their chaperone since some young brother always seemed to tag along. They'd keep me out all night and never mention to my mother the additional comapanion that was with us.

    As a teenager you could forget working with a young brother out in service. But they never did mind pairing me up with an elder or MS- which to me is a lot worse would you agree? A young girl is a lot safer with a teenage boy than she is with some middle aged man who probbably surfs through those "barely legal teen babes" websites anyway.

    Plus don't forget the dating rules! Chaperones are mandatory!! That's always cracks me up. Just adds more reasons to my list why I will NEVER ever marry a DUB.

  • ButtLight
    ButtLight

    why not just send you to the door together, or seperate you two, and each take one?

  • Mysterious
    Mysterious

    Yeah but remember just kissing or holding hands sets most JWs off. They dont necessarily have to believe that it would be sex sex...but you know one thing does lead to another and pretty soon there is porneia all around!

  • prophecor
    prophecor


    The eternal guilt complex. Being one who was skilled at home repair to some degree, I was counselled by one of my " Just wanna protect ya' @$$ " brothers, saying that I should think twice before allowing myself to be in the presence of a single sisters home alone. Granted she was old enough to be my mom, but I felt kinda' icky afterwards. This was during my adult period after finally being baptised.

    I'll never forget when I was studying as a teenager, 14 at best, and the brother who was my teacher heard I was at his house, I even think his wife called him so I could personally speak to him. When I went to his house to look him up. He politely and unreservedly told me over the phone, in no uncertain terms, I should never be at his house while his wife was alone, under any circumstances. It just didn't look right before the neighbors who all knew they were witnesses. I was a little perturbed, to say the least. I was 14. What kinda' message was that going to send out into the community?

    You'd think that I'd looked up Mona Lisa's skirt or something. I was mildly crushed.

  • rebel8
    rebel8

    Yes but it was not just "young people". Opposite sex adults are not allowed to be alone even momentarily for the same reason.

  • greendawn
    greendawn

    These sound like victorian age ideas. I don't like the JW approach to sexuality but they are right that teenagers especially when sex starved can do things together or at least get inflamed with wild passions and "sin" in the heart as the puritans see it. Even more horrible is the idea that this may lead to masturbation to release the sexual tension.

  • Ellie
    Ellie

    This happened a couple of years ago to me.

    My neices husband came over to pick up a baby walker from me, I was really busy so didn't invite him in, but I felt a bit rude so I apologised to my neice the next time I saw her, she told me not to worry, that he wouldn't have come in anyway as I was alone and things might happen.

    I was quite shocked.

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