robdar,
Every single girlfriend I have (all are pretty damn sexy) claim that when they become sexually agressive with men, the men get flaccid? Or, worse yet, push them off and call them a nympho or slut?
they are with the wrong guys. sounds like they are with chauvanistic jerks (the "slut" part, unless she likes being called a slut in bed), or they are with guys who have control/power issues. which sucks. especially if your girlfriend enjoys being aggresive. she needs to find a guy that likes being dominated a little. there are lots out there.
TS