First let me say Welcome ! When I came here a little over a year ago, during a family crises, I was extremely nervous. I half expected a demon to jump out of the screen and 'infect' me, take me over...think Stargate! A lot did happen, but, nothing like that.
I was baptised in 1972 during the "Last Days of this wicked old system of things..." Rather than go to college, as my non-JW Dad had saved for, I chose to be a regular Pioneer for 3.5 years. Nothing happened in 1975 that is worth while to discuss...nothing at all. That was my very first BIG disappointment, there were lots of 'little' ones...you know...the ones that are always excused & explained away as -- "human imperfection", "God's organization is made up of imperfect men, so we expect mistakes..."
No matter what you've read or heard about 1975, I swear...I heard them say 1975 was the "last" year in "Satan's World", they were careful not to write it, because they needed 'wiggling room.' Just in case. They said it to DO's, CO's, PO's, Elders, Pioneers and we told it to everyone else at the Kingdom Halls, assemblies and door to door to the public. It's an issue you need to look into, before you spend the next 30 years, as I did, following a lie.
I am not DF/DA, I am 'fading', basically faders usually have family that is important to them and don't want to be shunned...or put their JW family in a position where they think they must shun. I am 'marked' for not attending meetings and re-marrying a never-been-a-dub. My X forced an unscriptural divorce on me and got away with that, too. Most of my family thought/feared I would get disfellowshipped as soon as I got married again, because -- get this -- I would be committing 'adultery' . I was the innocent spouse, that didn't matter. I stayed single & celibate for 8 years, then I needed to go on with my life. That was another BIG crisis -- the same one that made me google 'Jehovah's Witnesses'. I was trying to find some info relating to my situation. My whole family was already shunning me -- in advance -- to look like 'good Christians' to each other. None came to my civil wedding.
I was amazed & saddened. My new wife was shocked and hurt my family of 'good Christians' could treat us so coldly. 1/2 of my family are active JW's. She over heard one of my sisters read (scream) to me, 2 Cor. 6:14 & 17 "...Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers..." & "...quit touching the unclean thing..." Well, that certainly was "Christ-like." My sweet wife...crying says, "I believe in Christ, I'm not an unbeliever! What does she mean ..."an unclean thing?"
That almost cut the throat of my beliefs with the Watchtower, then the BIGGEST cut of all happened:
My faithful Mom died. She needed a blood transfusion. She could have taken hemoglobin...but, my other JW relatives decided she would have want the "more strict interpretation and take 'no blood products' of any kind." The Watchtower Blood Laws are so confusing that many people just say "No", to everything, even tho' it's OK for a JW to take hemoglobin.
Btw, you know what the difference is between a Red Blood cell & hemoglobin ? The outside membrane. Hemoglobin comprises about 97% of the cell...the other 3% is basically the 'skin'. So, it's OK to take the INSIDE of the blood cell -- but, not the OUTSIDE !
My dear mother lost her life over that ! The very sad thing is, as you read these pages, you'll be shocked at how many other witnesses have died over this same issue.
This religion took the life of my mother -- that was STRIKE 3. The game's over. A lot of us have left the park...