How do you feel about promiscuous sex? (page 7)

nicolaou

I'm pretty much with IC on this one. I was a good dubbie all the way from childhood to my teens. I was a virgin on my wedding night as was Mrs Nic'. Now, at 20 and 18 years old respectively, with no sexual experience behind us, you can imagine that the learning curve was pretty steep!

I'd be a liar if I said I never regretted not having a 'normal' teenage sex life and I'm sure my wife has wondered about it too but after 20 years of marriage (next April) to someone I am still nuts about I know that I am now unable to separate love from sex and I don't want it any other way. Of course we have sex just for the fun of it - and a lot of giggling good fun it can be too - but underneath all that I am with the girl I fell in love with, we 'get' each other, we heal each other, we love each other.

That's not to knock anyone else's value's, I stopped judging a while back, but this is how I feel right now at 41. I'm not a hormonally driven teenager anymore but I still love . . . . well that' between me and the Mrs!

Guess I'm just a soppy old git but I don't care!

oldflame

I can live without it, that would really suck getting burned for getting the pepe wet......

daystar

can they at least stop treating their bodies like a pleasure toy.

Why?

Perhaps you should rather look at what is informing your prejudices.

As long as the guy and gals are being safe and he is not taking advantage of them, what business is it of your's or anyone else's?

gumby

that would really suck getting burned for getting the pepe wet......

I just put cold water on mine and have never been burned. Turn down your damn thermostat on your water heater for cripes sake!

Hey...we goin golfing today?

Gumby

bigwilly

Here's my 2 cents worth. As per Bull, TS, Crumpet, Avishai and many others, I also believe that "promiscuity" is perfectly okay when all the people involved are okay with it. Personally I had a few partners prior to marriage, most of those relationships were monogamous. Most of the women I have been with have been more experienced than myself (that wasted 20yrs of JW repression set me back on the learning curve). I valued thier experience as they knew what they were doing and were able to teach me alot and expand my horizons. I think it's important to "get around" a little so you know what you like, how to please your partners, and learn what these interactions bring to you and your partners. How can you make a good choice in a life partner without knowing anything about sex and couples dynamics?

Personally, I am married and will never do anything to endanger that relationship. Like Bull I windowshop, anyone who says they don't look is either dead, lying or in denial. My wife looks too, we both know that the other looks and are okay with it. At the end of the day, no matter how attractive anyone out there is, I would not sacrifice what I have with my wife for anything. Anyone can be a sex partner, it takes someone special to be a life partner.

I know some people who have had "open marriages" and made it work for them, I also know some that have defenitely not worked. Same thing with polyamorous relationships. Like many of the people here, I feel if it works for you, GREAT!

free2beme, "I see these woman he sleep with as pathetic, and look at them like tools on the wall of his garage and almost find myself forgetting their human."

Is this their problem? Are they unhappy with their lifestyle? I think the problem is your own. Why do you have such a poor opinion of women?

Big Willy

mrsjones5

been there, done that, now happily married and very satisfied

bull01lay

BigWilly:

Anyone can be a sex partner, it takes someone special to be a life partner.

Fantastic observation, and well said !

Bull!

Tez

Seems the majority consensus of opinion is 'each to his/her own'. However, what I object to is that possibly this guy tries to make others who don't have the same opinion on promiscuity as he does feel inferior.... Do you think this is the case? In his own way he is demonstrating that he feels he is the one and only 'Gods gift to Women'!!! Obviously some women agree with him, but there is nothing wrong with feeling that promiscuity is morally wrong also. 'Each to his/her own' goes both ways and I can't be doing with folk that think others prudish just because they don't live the same 'loose' life!

GetBusyLiving

Nailing random's with no emotional connection whatsoever get's a little empty after a while but hey, sex is easily a more entertaining way to expel sperm than masterbation.

GBL (LOL!)

juni

Promiscuous sex I feel is wrong. I'm married and I would NEVER cheat on my husband. He did to me and it hurt and does change your relationship and trust. Never the same again.

If I were single perhaps w/a partner where the relationship was heading the right way. Can't say for sure as I'm not in that position. Too many things to consider. Juni - the cautious one

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