JUST Friends

by FreudianSlip 73 Replies latest members adult

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  FreudianSlip

  IN GENERAL can a man and woman that are physically attracted to each other be friends without a sexual element coming into play (assuming one or both are married or in a relationship)? (Obviously switch out sexes for homosexual individuals). I say they can be just friends and it happens all the time and that it shouldn't mean an end to the friendship.

  Still, we never know how we'll react under the right circumstances, so.. here's my question, should a person in a relationship continue to be friends with someone that they are attracted to or should they avoid them because of the possibility of cheating? If you say they should continue the friendship, how would you feel about your significant other being friends with someone they are quite attracted to?
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  shamus100

  I would say avoidance would be the best policy.

  I'd think of my significant other, and take into effect their feelings, and expect the same in kind.

  With facebook, etc. out there nowadays, it can get a little cloudy. Best not to have secrets.
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  snowbird

  What Shamus said.

  If it was going to cause problems, I would make every effort to avoid being alone with someone to whom I'm attracted.

  Sylvia
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  FreudianSlip

  If it was going to cause problems

  Why would it have to cause problems? That's my point. Can't two adults be attracted and not act on it?

  I'd think of my significant other, and take into effect their feelings, and expect the same in kind.

  Do you not trust yourself?
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  snowbird

  Of course they can, Freudian, but why play with fire?

  Sylvia
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  snowbird

  Of course they can, Freudian, but why play with fire?

  Sylvia
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  FreudianSlip

  why play with fire?

  I guess I feel like a person should be able to be friends with whoever they want. Fear shouldn't determine it.
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  snowbird

  I wouldn't call it fear; I would call it prudence.

  Sylvia
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  tec

  I've been married for twelve years, and I have to agree with both Sylvia and Shamus. Why play with fire? And why risk hurting your significant other over the feelings that might develop from physical attraction and friendship?

  Baby steps can lead you to a bad place as easily as they can lead you to a good place.
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  FreudianSlip

  I suppose I am in the minority on this. Unfortunately I am physically attracted to most of my friends. If I enjoy their company, they tend to become more beautiful to me. If I was single, I would date pretty much any of them. Therefore, I see no need to limit my friendships.