by Sirona 83 Replies latest jw friends
Many Jehovah's Witnesses believe what they've been told about Ex-Witnesses.
They say that ExJWs simply want to live an immoral life. They say that ExJWs cannot live up to "Jehovah's Standards". They say that the reason we pick holes in their doctrine is to justify our evil ways.
EXJWs: Did you pursue a course of immorality and then research the JWs to look for holes in doctrine?
Sirona
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EXJWs: Did you pursue a course of immorality and then research the JWs to look for holes in doctrine?
No.
I began to have doubts that got stronger and stronger. I was in a loveless marriage also. At the point of leaving it began to occur to me that a bonus of leaving could possibly be me getting me leg over more often..
Englishman.
As a kid I had a hard time believing in the doctine. It is only coincidence that I lead an immoral life ;)
I guess I left because I wanted to do stuff that would be considered immoral when a witness. I wanted to go see my favorite bands without getting counselled for it, I wanted to grow long hair to cover up my huge ears, I didn't want a religion to stand in the way of me finding my soul mate, I wanted to pursue wrestling as a career and with the travelling I'd be doing I didn't want that to become a problem, I wanted to finish college (which with the class schedules for my requirements I never would've been able to do). Seeing a bunch of hypocrites looking out for their own will made me realize that it was ok to honestly ask myself what I wanted, people admitting to me that most of the people they knew were hypocrites made me want to leave, the stuff I wanted to do gave me the reason to leave, finally after I had already decided to leave I typed in "Jehovah's Witness" into the search bar of Netscape Navigator at my college and the rest gave me the reason never to go back.
Now I don't think I lead an immoral life, I've never touched a drug or any alchohol. I've only been with one woman, maybe I'm immoral due to my wrestling because I'm living a life filled with violence. I suppose, but it's fake violence so I would say I'm alright there. The only real "immoral" thing I do is I swear like a sailor, but in my defense I was worse when I was a witness.
LMAO@Englishman's comments.............and, sorta been there, done the same thing, for the same reasons!
Terri
LOL Eman.
I guess what I'm driving at here is: JWs accuse us of wanting to live immoral lives. By immoral I'd say they mean adultery, fornication, drunkenness, drugs, lying, theiving, cheating etc.
Do you do these things and try and think you need to justify that by picking holes in the WBTS?
It could be said I was guilty of fornication for a while. The thing is, when I left JWs I was married and did nothing immoral. I didn't leave to become immoral I left because of the hypocrisy and guilt trips and the sheer exhaustion of living up to the rules of men. After this I researched the JWs and found out what I now know about them. After that is when I might have done some things that THEY think are immoral, but I never did anything illegal.
I just think that when they say this to us its the biggest put down. Most of us, even if we got DF'd and then left, are NOT living "immoral" lives. So we didn't leave just so that we could become the dregs of society, as they try to make out.
What do you think?
Sirona
You've hit the nail right in the head with this one. Yes, for many that's exactly the case.
When and if I ever have the opportunity to leave this way of life, I'll become involved in politics, I'll play lottery and go to casinos, attend clubs regularly, and also I may never marry again but rather live together with my next man.
Things I could never do now being a JW.
DY
EXJWs: Did you pursue a course of immorality and then research the JWs to look for holes in doctrine?
Yes. I just didn't want to live the JW lifestyle anymore, and I turned completely worldly. It was six years later when I discovered that their doctrines are full of crap via the internet!
I'm with jwbot. By the way, LOL at how you expressed it!
Actually I became an ex-JW because I wanted to get away from lying, slandering, unethical, hateful, unloving JWs.
I left because I wanted to live a moral and ethical life without compromising my conscience and those principles for The Sake of The Truth?.
Love, Scully
